Clothes of boyfriends past

It is cold tonight, and I am, coincidentally, wearing three articles of clothing from boyfriends past.

It is unintentional, and sweet.

My sweatshirt, too big, an unattractive colour really, is one that I grabbed out of my first submissive’s ‘give away’ bag when we were clearing out clothes to take to good will. He probably had it for quite a while before I took it. I plucked it out of the box by the front door.

“I’ll have that,” I said, putting it on.

He looked at me in it.

“It looks good,” he said.

I laughed, twirled.

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And now… femdom porn…

If you have never heard of the movie ‘Verfolgt‘, why not? It’s a German film that has been marketed in English as ‘Hounded’ and ‘Punish Me’.

It’s a rare beast: a femdom story that involves a conflicted, older female dominant sadist and a much younger, pretty submissive masochist. It boasts fine acting and nary a latex or leather outfit in sight.

I found a link to a wonderful tribute to it, so here’s a preview:

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Really really want

At the dog park, I pointed out to e how his dog would run enthusiastically up to a group of dogs, and then she would stand there on the edge and see who was interested in playing with her. A kind of “Here I am, everyone… I’ve done my thing, now if you want to play with me, you have to come to me” thing.

e looked at me. “That’s just like you…”

I looked back at him.

He said, “You really only want to be with someone who really really wants to be with you.”

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On socialising and being an introvert

The last BDSM event I went to was with e, there were maybe 200 people there.

He is quite involved in his local community and knows pretty much everyone. Obviously, I didn’t know anyone.

We hung around together, whispering and laughing, having some drinks, talking to people, and at some point we drifted apart.

I spent some time speaking to a rigger about a book project he was working on while he explained in gleeful detail what it was and showed me photos of some of the images he had created for it. I spoke to another man about his … Continue Reading

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Dominance and conflict

There is a perception by some out there in the world that dominants enjoy conflict. Maybe some dominants do, but I’m not one of them.

One of the reasons I operate better in a D/s relationship is because I *dislike* conflict. I don’t like arguing, I don’t like fighting, and I *really* don’t like wasting time on stupid irrelevancies that shouldn’t even be a ‘thing’.

I want a harmonious, happy relationship where my sweetheart and I sail along smoothly and sweetly, and having a clear line of authority makes that easier.

Theoretically, if that was all there was to it, … Continue Reading

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Foot fetishists, come talk to me

I was randomly sending foot photos that I found while I was trawling for porn doing important research to a friend of mine. He has a foot fetish, I thought he might like them. Each time, he came back with a shrug and some comment like, “Too much man-hand, not enough woman-foot!”

My lack of understanding of good foot porn finally had him shaking his head and remarking:

My feet

“You have really pretty feet. You have a shoe fetish, yet you have no idea what a foot fetishist wants to look at.

It’s like how dogs have a great sense of

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Brat Domme

There is a three year old who lives in my head… she might be a little older than that, but I imagine her at about three.

She is a selfish, demanding, unreasonable, spoilt little brat. She is not interested in logic, in reasoning, in consequences, she just wants things and she wants them NOW! And sometimes she *doesn’t* want things and will kick and scream and petulantly yell ‘No no NO!’

She can be incredibly funny and playful, but sometimes she is just a pain in the arse.

She is the one who whispers impractical things in my ear, urging … Continue Reading

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