You’re Doin’ It Wrong…!!

YDIW in BDSMers… can be treated and cured through the application of “NO ONE GIVES A FUCK WHAT YOU THINK, ASSHOLE.” It should be applied liberally whenever YDIW flares up.

—Dan Savage

See also “You iz doin’ it wrong“… Continue Reading

The other day, I went to a fetish shop. I had bought a flogger from them some time ago, and it had a flaw. I wanted them to repair or replace it, but hadn’t gotten around to going there to talk to them about it yet.

When I walked in, there was one other customer in the bright cheery shop, a small woman who seemed to be collecting a whole lot of items, laying them on the glass-top counter, then going to find some more. There was quite a stack.

I had a chat to the guy behind the counter … Continue Reading

Grrrr… I fucking want some fucking kissing!!

We hear submissive men say fairly frequently that dominant women do not respond to their emails, or ‘disappear’ after a few back and forths (I put ‘disappear’ in quotes because all it really means is that they stopped responding).

I just want to point out, for the record, that quite often submissive men do not respond to emails that I send them either, or sometimes they simply stop replying when we have some sort of dialogue going on.

I’m not saying that to complain, I’m simply stating it as a fact.

I don’t have some magic wand that compels someone … Continue Reading