Random memories: Foreplay?!

He was lying on the floor at my feet, we were watching TV.

He had a gorgeous arse and beautiful legs. I was distracted by the muscles of his thighs, and the crease where his legs met his arse.

I idly started to pat his arse with my foot, just stroking him gently. He shifted back a little to give me better access. I squeezed my foot between his thighs and he opened his legs for me. I kicked him gently in the crotch, no force, more of a pat than a kick, then ran my toes between his arse … Continue Reading

Loves: 13
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Building trust

Trust doesn’t flow one way. I know that’s obvious, but we D/s folks talk a lot about how the submissive has to trust their Domme and all that. Yes, true.

But as a dominant, I have to trust him also.

I have to trust him to accept my dominance happily, I have to trust him to glow under it, I have to trust that he will tell me when something is wrong, I have to trust that he is sincere in wanting to give me the things that I want, I have to trust that he is happy to be … Continue Reading

Loves: 24
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e[lust] #40

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Inexperience is hot

I don’t seek out inexperienced submissives, nor do I like submissives *because* of it, but I do love inexperience. It is fresh and sweet and innocent.

When I bring an inexperienced submissive with me into a kind of relationship that he has never been in before, I get to see everything with fresh eyes, as if it’s the first time for me also, and in so many ways, it *is*. I get the incredible privilege of being part of his exploration, I get to watch him as his world expands, I get to see a man who has ‘been there … Continue Reading

Loves: 22
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Look, pussies!

I get sick of ‘porn pussies’ and how their ubiquitous uniformity makes women feel as if their vulvas are abnormal/ugly/embarrassing/wrong.

Women are bombarded with enough ways to feel bad about ourselves (don’t even get me started on the idea that now our *orgasms* aren’t good enough unless they are multiples that are triggered by a man just touching us lightly with a single finger, and where we squirt buckets all over the walls).

I’ve written ranted about labia fascism before, but really it’s more than just that. Most women don’t get to see a lot of pussy, even when women … Continue Reading

Loves: 7
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Random memories: First love

It was scorching hot, summer at the beach in the days when being tanned was the thing and gladly-offered sacrifices to get there included baby oil and sweat dripping from everywhere.

She’d walked out of the surf topless earlier in the day, I had watched her striding towards me up the beach.

I felt, for the first time that I can recall, unbridled lust as she came towards me. A punch in the stomach so strong that had I not already been lying down, I would have doubled over with the power of it. If I had been able to … Continue Reading

Loves: 17
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How to get a Domme to shut up…

Context:
[Snippet of an IM conversation with a lovely flirty boy who lives nowhere near me… I am sensibly and tediously talking about the difference between remote connection and real life…]

Him: You wouldn’t like to know what I feel like?

Me: You forget that I have experience with this… of meeting someone and ‘it’ was just not there, though remotely it very much seemed like it was. Chemistry is indefinable, so my point is that everything up to meeting is imagination and wishful thinking. And that shit is powerful, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it will translate.
So … Continue Reading

Loves: 12
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