Lies

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There are people on the internet who will lie to you.

I KNOW RIGHT?!!

So shocking!!!

*laugh*

This is not a public service announcement.

I know people lie. Or hide things, BIG things. Of course I know this.

That doesn’t surprise or baffle me. People are greedy and selfish and want something and they will lie to get it. Or they’re just fucking about and think it’s all a a … Continue Reading

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Once upon a time when I was a lesbian…

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I sometimes jokingly say ‘once upon a time when I was a lesbian…’. It sounds frivolous, and it is a lighthearted reference, but it refers to a really important part of my life, and one I struggled with, though perhaps not for the obvious reasons.

My first love was a girl. I’ve mentioned her before a couple of times. Holy god she was something.

And when I say love, … Continue Reading

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Observation

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There is a lot to be said for being able to see how potential partners interact with others.

I have met pretty much all of my submissives online, so before we meet, the most I can see of them beyond our private interaction is how they communicate with others on social media, and wow, is it telling.

In isolation, they get to be whoever they want, their best selves, the … Continue Reading

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The role of erotica

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Earlier I tweeted this:

erotica

This morning I received the most heartwarming email from a lovely woman who credits my book for having had a positive influence on her 20+ year relationship with her husband. I was moved almost to tears by her words. I felt both proud and incredibly humbled.

They were exploring a femdom dynamic, and she was enjoying it well enough, but while it was fun for … Continue Reading

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More on neediness

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greg made this comment on my last:

Thought provoking post. I never thought about it this way. It makes sense, but it sounds difficult to sort out…

I never really thought about it this way before either and I think it IS difficult to sort out. The fact that we all subconsciously navigate this all the time (sometimes well, sometimes poorly) is interesting to me.

It relates to something that I have had in the back of my mind for a long time but that I struggle … Continue Reading

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Neediness

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I’ve just started reading Ann St Vincent’s blog. It’s a very personal sex and relationship blog, not femdom, but one of those wonderful blogs where the author shares themselves in such a way that you become engaged in their story.

She has recently talked about Andrew, a new man in her life (part 1, part 2 of recent developments), and in all of the angsty reflection that she is going through, she described herself as ‘needy’.

I started thinking about the idea of neediness and … Continue Reading

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I call him ‘puppy’

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“Do you know how long we have known each other? I don’t know either, but it’s over 6 years. SIX YEARS!”

I messaged him on CollarMe so long ago, a cold call. He was very active on the forums: smart and funny, and an incorrigible flirt. His profile had a photo of his back then, broad and overtanned, tapering off to a tiny waist, cropped at the curve of his arse. These days it’s his six pack, a pose that I told him would have … Continue Reading

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