This is my 1000th post on this blog. Holy fuck!

When I started this blog 6 years and 1 month ago (phew!), I wanted to show what a female dominant/male submissive relationship actually looks like when it’s in a context of love and complexity and real life. I was in a relationship with my boy then. You saw me navigate that relationship with passion and and were witness to my heartbreak when it ended. Since the beginning, I have shared my history, my explorations, my play, my struggles, and my endless opinions about everything over the years.

So for taking … Continue Reading

After reading a post from a submissive man essentially saying, “I really like this dominant woman, she makes my heart flutter, but I’m concerned that I’m too eager to do the small and insignificant things she asks me for this early in our discussions: I’m not sure I’m comfortable with that”, I reflected a little on the oddness of that.

And it led me to this realisation:

You know what I’ve found?

Vanilla men are often WAAAYYY more secure in being sweet and lovely than many submissive men and as a result, they often do ‘submissive behaviours’ more easily and … Continue Reading

Yingtai was kind enough to ask me a question in my last post’s comments and save me from my non-bloggery (thank you!).

When I started my blog I desperately wanted advice on what a future dom might NOT want me to write about. God knows my past doms have been a lot more private than I am. (I think subs must have some kind of compulsion to confess.)

*smile* Now of course I have zero idea what a future dom might not want you to write about, but I CAN tell stories…

I’d say first off that as a dominant, … Continue Reading