Reader Q&A: Expectations, clowning, & compliments

Questions from readers, no mucking about, let’s get to it!
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Met a Domme, dated briefly, she wanted to be friends, I proposed a D/s relationship, she said she’d consider it, we engaged in D/s flirtation, I offered specific service and got no reply, and a D/s relationship was never formalized. I felt teased & manipulated after awhile, asserted myself, she got mad when I wouldn’t serve her. I asked for clarification of our relationship because I was feeling confused, and when she asked why I need clarification, I told her it was because my time and efforts were valuable. Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: All over the place

I do love getting interesting questions, so thank you to those who sent them in via my Ask Me page. If I was organised, I’d do the Q&A on some kind of monthly schedule, but I’m totally not, so randomness it is!

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Hello Gorgeous,

People seem to think that because a woman is Dominant she must act in specific ways all the time. As intelligent people we both know that is not how it works in reality though. There are times, I am sure, where you do not feel Dominant such as when you are tired or drained. So … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: This and that

Random questions that arrived via my Ask Me page. I love getting them, so thank you for them anonymouses!

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Hello . I would like to ask you that what kind of activities should a Dom wife Exercise in start. Really looking forward to that

There is no ‘should’ here. Sit down together and talk about what sort of things you are both interested in, find some common ground that is safe and easy and fun, start there and see how it goes.

If you are completely stumped, I suggest you google ‘BDSM checklist’ which is a list of potential … Continue Reading

Loves: 6
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On punishment

A reader question:

“In a recent thread on FetLife you mentioned that you use punishment as part of your dynamic, while both recognizing and agreeing with the reasons some do not.

How does punishment work in your relationships? Removal of privileges? Some kind of physical punishment? Something else entirely?”

I did mention that, yes. For the record, my comment is here (requires Fetlife login), and the pertinent paragraph was:

Those who don’t like punishment dynamics generally fall into three camps: The ‘Talk about it!’ camp, the ‘He’s not a child’ camp or the ‘It doesn’t work’ camp. I get a

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Reader Q&A: So what are you like?

So what are you like when you are not writing this wonderful blog ? Are you happy and chirpy ? Are you quiet and stern ? Do you have a coy smile ? Are you naughty ? Do you pull pranks on your friends ? *writes a hundred more such questions*

*laugh* Cute questions, but of course, the ‘what are you like’ one is unanswerable in any definitive way.

Are you happy and chirpy ?

Yes, I’m a pretty happy person in general. I like to see good and positive in things and am generally optimistic about life and possibilities. … Continue Reading

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Reader QnA: Would you date a 24yo?

I love reading your play stories, although sometimes I think the level of violence would overwhelm me in reality. I’ve been boxing and fighting since I was young, but I don’t know how I could handle real pain in a sexual context.

Love your commitment to fitness and the whole “mens sano in corpore sano” thing. I think I’m young for you but – would you ever consider a 24 year old?

I’m glad you’re enjoying the play stories *smile*.

“…sometimes I think the level of violence would overwhelm me in reality. I’ve been boxing and fighting since I Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: G-spot orgasms & sweetness

A while ago you posted on your experience trying a G-Spot orgasm. And it sounded like you enjoyed it a lot and wanted to explore some more. Have you? Has it become a regular part of your routine?

I did!! And I do want to explore some more. But fuck, I’m a lazy wanker. Literally. I just want to get off and go.

It’s on my to-do list:

“Wank more and better.”

You’re awesome. :-)

Thank you!! *smile*

When I jerk off, I like to wear high heels, thigh high hose, short dresses, and tie up my Continue Reading

Loves: 3
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