Given my recent ranty post about having ‘children’ listed as a hard limit, I am now going to ask a question that hits hard up against that rant.

What age does someone have to be before it ok to talk to them about *their interest* in BDSM? I use the emphasis there because I am making a distinction between young people being coerced and young people who HAVE this interest, they have these feelings and they don’t know what to do with them, or where to go with them, or who they can talk to, or where they can find … Continue Reading

My twitter followers already know about this (thanks for the notes of support, folks!), but here’s the full story.

For a few months, a light coloured, flat mole on my back had been slightly bothering me. It would scab over and itch. The first couple of times, I thought I might have knocked it, but after a while, I realised that it was doing it all on its lonesome. Everyone knows that scabbing and itchy moles are No Good.

I had a punch biopsy (Ouch! Who makes up these names?! Why not ‘candy biopsy’ or ‘fluffy bunny biopsy’?!), and sure … Continue Reading

People who include ‘children’ as a hard limit make me shouty.

The only reason I can see for doing it is if they actually believe that playing with minors is such a common and acceptable practice with most of the BDSM community that they have to differentiate themselves from the norm by stating it.

The only thought process that makes sense to me, that justifies including it, is this:

“Playing with kidlets is the norm, so I had better separate myself from *everyone else* by listing it as a hard limit. If I don’t have it listed, obviously everyone will

Dishevelled Domina has written a great post about F/m D/s relationships, drawing attention to the fallacy of female supremacy and female led relationships (FLRs) as the ‘One True Way of D/s’ for dominant women and submissive men to be in a relationship.

While I agree with the overall point (that F/m relationships do not have to be defined in any one way, except to suit the participants), and her preference is equality in her own relationship outside of their love life, I offered the following comment since the question it raises for me is “What is an FLR, anyway… and … Continue Reading

Spartacus: Gods of the Arena, I am a fan.

I cannot believe I missed the first series, and yes, for all of you Americans who saw it 600 years ago, Gods of the Arena is JUST showing here now! It is in my calendar, Wednesday nights, I have an alarm set so that I don’t miss it.

For someone who doesn’t watch television (it is on, mostly unwatched sight and sound, I like to think of it as my funny-shaped friend who natters at me when I am on the internet), having a ‘must watch’ TV show is unusual.

Why, … Continue Reading

Topic by secretiveslave, marketing by Ferns… (see what you are missing out on by not following me on twitter? I am full of teh internet wins!)…

* In case you aren’t aware, you have to read the dialogue from the bottom upwards…

The resulting outline:

*laugh* Brilliant!