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Peroxide asked some great questions in response to my post ‘Sometimes, angels sing where I talk about the incredible vulnerability that I seek from my submissive:

We’ve all got walls (some of us more than others) that we put between ourselves and everybody else. How do you know that a sub is capable willing and eager to drop them?

And let’s just say hypothetically that there was a young man, who really wanted to be able to become open and vulnerable, within a relationship where he felt (was sure he was) safe.

How could he display that willingness, without dropping

I recently completed a ‘trip map’, where you identify all the cities you have been to and they get pinned on a map.

108 cities in 38 countries.

I need to get out more.
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We have a good day today as a family. Breakfast out, eggs benedict and good coffee, shopping at a nursery for trees for the garden, some time reading, I work on some computer problems, we cook dinner together, we have champagne.

I propose a toast to my mother, who we wish was here with us, but isn’t, we touch glasses.

I sit quietly beside my father, and he cries; this from a man who I have seen shed tears only a handful of times in my life. I am grateful he is ok to do it with me there, he … Continue Reading

Sometimes, life is just life, a kiss is just a kiss and play is just play. And sometimes, angels sing.

When I talk about my relationships, I often pluck out those moments that ARE the angels singing, and I hold those instances up to the light and examine them. I sometimes talk about day to day stuff, but even then, I choose the moments that interest me, those that have some small revelation, so I think I am maybe guilty of adding to the ‘idealistic fantasy’ of D/s relationships, even if it is not the stereotypical one.

There is a … Continue Reading

I like to woo and seduce and flirt and reel him in, I *love* to do that, that’s how I establish the relationship and the dynamic and ‘how it will be’. The dance is a testing ground to see how we will relate, to play with each other, to find and press buttons, to push-pull and nudge at the edges.

There is a school of thought amongst some Dommes that seems to suggest that seduction is somehow disingenuous or akin to lying and therefore not within the principles of open and honest communication. They approach D/s relationships with interviews and … Continue Reading