about me/  musing

Being sexy

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I am not good at ‘being sexy’ in the traditional sense. Dressing the part, acting the coquette, doing that ‘sex object’ thing, flirting coyly. Yeah, I can’t do it. If I had to deliberately behave in a sexy manner, I’d fail horribly and embarrassingly. I’d be all ridiculous expressions and awkward clumsy movements.

But, I think I’m sexy. Strong, attractive, hungry when aroused. My sexuality is powerful when it’s fired up, and I think *that’s* what makes me sexy. It’s different from traditional feminine images of ‘sexy’.

My version of ‘sexy’ is about feeling my own sexuality heightened.

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advice/  musing

Invoking/maintaining his submission

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A recent discussion interested me with two very different schools of thought in response to this question:

“Do you use anything to invoke and maintain submission from your partner?”

  • One school of thought seemed to be that his submission is just *there* all the time once he has agreed to submit and if the dominant has to do anything to invoke or maintain it, then there is something wrong.
  • The other was that submission requires some kind of action from the dominant to invoke and/or maintain it.

I’d guess that most people who have been reading my blog would think … Continue Reading

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audio/  musing

‘Moo, motherfucker’ ringtone

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Yes, really! *laugh*

Young slapshot has created this ring tone from a snippet of my Masocast interview.

It’s perfect for work calls, calls from your mother, and it adds a classy touch to any social occasion. I particularly recommend it for special events like weddings and funerals.

How much would you expect to pay? One million dollars??!

No no, it’s FREE! While stocks last. And you also get a free set of steak knives*.

Download here: Moo-Motherfucker

You’re welcome!

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* And by ‘free set of steak knives’, I mean ‘there are no free steak knives’… Continue Reading

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about me/  audio/  interview/  musing/  randomness

Come and sit in on a chat with me…

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© Masocast by UnspeakableAxe

Do you want to sit in on a chat with me? Pretend we are in a bar, having some champagne, and having a cosy little chat? You can, sort of!

Unspeakable Axe and I talked for nearly three hours when he interviewed me for Masocast. His interview style is lovely, so it’s a low key, casual, friendly chat where we cover a whole range of topics.

He then had to trawl through my ramblings to edit it down to about an hour and twenty minutes (nice work, Axe!).

Over an hour of me talking!!! I KNOW, IT’S TOO MUCH!!!… Continue Reading

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musing/  random memories/  vanilla

Random memories: Hiding myself

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The first boy I ever fell in love with was a vanilla submissive. I have mentioned him before.

We are still in touch, I am pretty sure that I gave him this blog address at some stage long ago. I doubt he reads it, but I really don’t know and haven’t asked. If he does: *smile… wave* Hello there, A!!!

We were together before I had ever heard of BDSM, or D/s, or any of that. I once had us write sexual fantasies for each other. We were exploring possibilities, and I wanted to hear what was deep in the … Continue Reading

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musing

On puppying

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puppying [puhp-ee-ing] (verb): To behave in an excited and exuberantly enthusiastic manner over someone, like a puppy. Usage: You are puppying at me!

Submissive men who are into me ‘puppy’ at me. I call it puppying. I have no idea if I made that term up.

Puppying is when they are so excited every time they are around me that their whole body vibrates with delight, they get under my feet, they bounce around me, every pore screams “OMFG YOU’RE HERE YOU’RE HERE, SOOOOOO EXCITED!!!” If they didn’t have control they would lick my face and then pee on … Continue Reading

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about me/  musing/  vanilla

On ‘becoming a Domme’ Part I

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I was a pretty confident, smart, take-no-bullshit young woman, and I always attracted men who would fall over themselves to do what I wanted (even before I really figured out what I wanted). Given my later proclivities, I should have been happy with that, right?

But I found them insufferably dull because I would push at them, and they would roll over at the slightest hint of my disapproval, would become scared to even express an opinion in case it wasn’t one I liked, they were cowed. They weren’t doing what I wanted because they wanted me to be happy, … Continue Reading

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