Love in the time of…

March 20, 2020 16 Comments

'Collage of book covers: Love in the time of cholera'

It’s hard to know what to do when you are overwhelmed by stress and fear and an uncertain future. I know many people are struggling emotionally, physically, financially. It’s an unprecedented situation and I’m flailing with the rest of you.

Here in Australia it feels like the end of times: Bushfires, floods, and now pestilence. Just, WTeverlovingF?!!

We are behind the curve on the spread of coronavirus/covid-19 in Australia, but our case trajectory is following a similar path to every other country. Theoretically it should be easier to manage: No shared borders, spread out population, good health care. But no. … Continue Reading

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femdom dating/ musing

‘Why BDSM?’ elevator pitch

March 2, 2020 27 Comments

'Woman on Elevator' standing perfectly normally, as one does... by Úrsula Madariaga

In case you’re not familiar with the term ‘elevator pitch’, it’s “a short description of an idea, product or company that explains the concept in a way such that any listener can understand it in a short period of time.”
– Wikipedia

The way it was presented to me in the corporate world was ‘imagine you’re in an elevator with someone you want to explain your product/concept to before the lift reaches their floor and the doors open’.

One sentence, maybe two. It’s only the start of a conversation but that start has to resonate.

If you can’t explain it … Continue Reading

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musing/ play

How do you feel when you play?

February 4, 2020 36 Comments

A new dominant woman asked this of more experienced women in a discussion forum: “How do you feel?” She meant ‘when you play’, and it’s a great question that I’m not sure gets explored all that much from the dominant side.

She wrote:
So far, I don’t think I’m getting it… the thing that befuddles me the most, is how am I supposed to feel? Is there a way you should feel about this? Or does it make you feel a certain way? Is it pleasurable, like an orgasm, or like eating chocolate? Or is it something else? I read … Continue Reading

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about me/ musing/ photo

Femdom blogger EOY message

December 31, 2019 28 Comments

As a proper-for-real femdom blogger, I’m supposed to do a proper-for-real end-of-year (EOY) roundup full of stats and reflection and forward-looking statements about goals and such things, especially since it’s the end of the decade. Phew!

I’m not going to do that, though.

What I want to say in my last post of 2019 is this:

I am lucky and privileged to have this platform to write, and to have you, my lovely readers, to accompany and support me as I go.
So I want to say a huge and heartfelt thank you for being here with me.

My auto-tweetery … Continue Reading

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about me/ audio/ interview/ musing/ randomness

Come eavesdrop on another chat [Audio]

October 29, 2019 6 Comments

My third Masocast interview, ‘Ferns is back’, is live (the first interview from 2012 is here and the second from 2014 is here)!!

I had so much fun and a lot of laughs in this long chat with the lovely [unspeakable]Axe. We covered a wide and rambling set of topics related to BDSM from vanilla dating to how I should just go to New York to find a submissive :).

Random snippets:

I just wanna say ‘fuck you!’

Oh shit no. Oh can you imagine? Nooooo

I like to think it’s because I’m fabulous, but it’s really

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femdom dating/ musing/ My Gentleman

Boys, toys, & champagne

June 20, 2019 13 Comments

So a few things, random updates of sorts.

My Gentleman found my blog after our last date (hello there, MG :)). He could have found it earlier, he said, but he was waiting for me to tell him. Of course, we all know what happened before we got to that. He wasn’t upset about any of the content, and he was flattered to be written about, which is a relief to be honest. It means I navigated the line just about right.

He sent me a ‘war and peace’ length email after reading about himself to share his thoughts on … Continue Reading

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femdom dating/ musing

Femdom vs vanilla dating: Different approaches and why

June 14, 2019 10 Comments

'Untitled' by Pxhere

Femdom dating vs vanilla dating is like chalk and cheese for me.

I mentioned in a previous post that on the vanilla dating site, I take a very different approach to ‘when to meet’ than I do on BDSM sites.

There are a number of reasons for that that range from the obvious and simple to something more complex.

The first and biggest thing that influences my decision on ‘when to meet’ is that I’m an introvert and I get no pleasure or fun out of meeting people just because. So anyone who says ‘yeah, but it’s just a coffee … Continue Reading

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