Do you know yet?

June 5, 2020 10 Comments

'EGO - Burning Man 2012' by Bexx Brown-Spinelli

This is pure unadulterated ego, but I STILL think it’s true:

A bummer with newbie submissive men I get involved with is that they won’t know how amazing I really am until they get some experience with others. Until then, they more or less think all Dommes are like me, probably better, because ‘internet’ :P.

But if am interested in them, if I’m with them, there’s something special there. Something unlike anything they are going to experience again, something truly unique and rich and mind-blowing, something rare and sparkling.

BUT THEY DON’T KNOW THAT YET.

They think ‘wow, this is … Continue Reading

Loves: 15

Please wait...

about me/ advice/ advice for Dommes/ musing

Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

June 3, 2020 22 Comments

Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing!

Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash.

I am introverted, very.

I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above.

But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’.

For me, I’m talking more of a Jungian definition (think ‘MBTI tests’: I know I know, they are so yesterday :P).

That is, for me, people are energy sucks.

I do think … Continue Reading

Loves: 15

Please wait...

musing/ writing

A braingasm of femdom posts

June 2, 2020 10 Comments

'Multicolored brain illustration'

What’s the collective noun for a relentless bunch of femdom blog posts in a row?

I settled on ‘a braingasm’, but maybe ‘an insult’, ‘an authority’, ‘an order’, ‘a shitstorm’, ‘a salubriosity’ (is SO a word!)?

Anyway, I’M DOING IT THIS MONTH.

The fabulous Hyacinth over at A Dissolute Life Means is running an #EveryDamnDayInJune blogging meme, which she does every year and which I’ve never joined. You can find links to folks who are joining in at the bottom of that post linked in the hashtag there.

I like the idea of ‘forced writing’ (is this a kink?!), which … Continue Reading

Loves: 4

Please wait...

musing

What day is it?

May 17, 2020 10 Comments

It is a sign of the times that I no longer know what day it is. Lying in bed this morning having a little bet with myself. I was wrong, by the way. I decided it was most definitely Monday. It’s not. It’s Sunday. So here we are :).

How are you all doing, my lovelies?

I hope you and yours are well and safe. Please insert any and all of the trite pandemic-style banalities here.

On that note, Chrissy Teigen is one of the very few celebrities I follow on twitter because she’s hilarious, isn’t above getting into low-level … Continue Reading

Loves: 16

Please wait...

musing

The model and the priest

April 7, 2020 7 Comments

'Lies' by GDJ

Continuing on with my theme about liars from my previous post: Two stand-outs of ‘men who I didn’t believe, and who I called out’. Neither of them were potential submissives, but still.

The Model

A 6’6 fucking model hottie who was lighting up Fetlife with hot pictures.

OBVIOUSLY stolen photos *eyeroll*.

After quite a few of his photos hit ‘Kinky and Popular*’, thanks to women thirsty for hot bods, I got so annoyed that I challenged him, like ‘come on, dude’.
*(K&P shows photos that get the most loves and comments, and it’s mostly full of very … Continue Reading

Loves: 13

Please wait...

femdom dating/ musing

Liars and not-liars

April 4, 2020 18 Comments

'Crossed fingers' by Peter Timmerhues

Femdom dating is a crap shoot, emphasis on the ‘crap’ sometimes.

I’m not sure I ever wrote about the submissive in the US I said “No thanks” to.

He emailed me, was too young, had no way to afford even a single visit. He was just curious and wanted online attention and shenanigans while pretending he wanted something else.

After I said ‘no thank you’, he contacted me using another name, same IP address (amateur mistake). When I challenged him, he said, “No no I’m just staying with that other guy you talked to, I’m definitely not HIM! I live … Continue Reading

Loves: 15

Please wait...

femdom relationships/ musing

24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?

April 1, 2020 39 Comments

'Untitled' by Pxhere

There were some conversations on Twitter today about the difference between a 24/7 D/s dynamic and a Female Led Relationship (FLR).

An expanded version of my tweet-thoughts on this below.

The upshot: To me they’re the same thing.

My goal is a 24/7 D/s dynamic.

In my 24/7 D/s dynamic (when I have one), I have the authority in our relationship.

I lead, he follows.

There may be carve-outs that we agree on: For example, I may not have authority over his work or family, we decide what works for us. And that may change over time.

But the bottom … Continue Reading

Loves: 42

Please wait...

« Previous 1 2 3 4 … 51 Next »

Mistress Trini on 24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?: “Thank you darling .. this was an awesome read!” Feb 13, 09:38

Anonymous on 24/7 D/s vs FLR: What’s the difference?: “Nice put!” Feb 13, 09:38

Ferns on On Gods and Found Femdom: “That is a VERY good question and if I was on top of these things I would have noted it…” Mar 21, 12:29

Scarlette on On Gods and Found Femdom: “Hey! Just wondering which episode this is from?” Mar 21, 12:21

Ferns on Happy femdom story: D&S Part 2, S’ side: “Right? :) Ditto the squabbling over the TV remote tbh :). Ferns” Feb 15, 17:04