My second Masocast interview is live (the first is here)!!
A wonderfully sweet benefactor offered for-real moneys to ask me some very interesting and thoughtful questions, I spill my guts, laugh a lot, and blather more, and the lovely Axe pretends he isn’t just talking to me for the money!
I also do an audio reading of ‘Conflict’ at the end.
I know: SO MUCH STUFF!!
Random quotes:
I have a blog where I just go ‘bllarrgghh’…
…the other is to go “Ahh, fuck it…”
How do I know? I just know. I don’t know.
If it was that easy for me, I would be a much happier person…
I actually imagine that would really hurt. Which makes me laugh.
Aww, bless you!
I get excited if I get an initial email that engages me, and some people are very good at that… funny and witty and relevant and fabulous…
I am embarrassingly influenced by the pretty…
I’m going to give you the best chance here possible because I want to get my hands on THAT…
Fighting a shark!
…it’s a fetish site sex sex sex sexsexsexsex… women will love it… sex cock sex sex sex dick cock BEWBIES!
Just chop your head off and be done with it…
Secret bonus track!
Oooh… that’s a good question!
There is a quality that blows my mind with submissive men, a certain kind of submissive men, where they will throw themselves into a void without being scared of being hurt or being rejected or being in some way damaged, and I call that emotional fearlessness and it is immensely appealing to me…
When I find someone who can do that with me, they create this whole space where I can step into that void and that’s a big deal to me because that’s what vulnerability is: emotional fearlessness.
If they have it and they throw it at me and I feel safe to step into it also, then what you get is incredible intimacy and a mutual vulnerability that is incredibly bonding…
I struggle to believe over and over that they actually get some pleasure out of pleasing someone else… I still feel as if they have to convince me of that.
Go here to hear the full interview:
Thoughts? Comments? Questions? I’d love to hear from you!
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Shh I’m listening! Taking it to bed with me…No worries, I’m wearing clothes so don’t flip out. :) I have been waiting for this! *excited*
Respectfully,
Mysticlez
Okay, I had to come back and comment on something specifically you said in the interview now that I have listened to it.
I don’t want to quote specifics and mess it up, but you spoke about how you still have a hard time understanding how submissive men can derive happiness from completely pleasing someone else. You said that he has to prove to you that he really does get his happiness from pleasing you.
I think this is important both ways as well. Especially with having a few failed experiences in trying to find my way in D/s, I really have to feel that a Dominant really does take pleasure out of having the control. It’s difficult though because I don’t want to come across as “prove yourself to me” or “I’m hard to handle” etc.
So I am curious, besides the obvious of him saying he is happy, in what ways you watch for him to prove his submission to you?
Respectfully,
Mysticlez
“…besides the obvious of him saying he is happy, in what ways you watch for him to prove his submission to you?”
To quote what I said: “I struggle to believe over and over that they actually get some pleasure out of pleasing someone else… So, I still feel as if they have to convince me of that…”
That’s different from ‘proving his submission’. I know you didn’t want to misrepresent what I said, so I’m clarifying.
How does he convince me that he gets pleasure out of pleasing me? By consistently demonstrating that he is made happy by doing things that please me. So when I ask him to do something, I would hope he lights up with pleasure at being asked, and runs off to do it happily. Over and over.
Of course not ALL things are fun and happy-making, but by the time it settles into the ‘normal’ day-to-day, I’d expect to be well and truly convinced already.
Ferns
See now I don’t want to hear the masocast thingummy because the convo I linked all those together in my head is probably so much more AWESOME than the real thing
Coug
*laugh* No no… the actual conversation is MUCH better! Pinkie promise!
Ferns
Another wonderful interview, Ferns. I could just listen to you talk about anything (even though you TOTALLY don’t have an accent).
The reading at the end was especially great. It really let me visualize what you were narrating.
Thank you Neophyte. I’m really glad you enjoyed it (despite the ‘no accent’ thing!) *smile*.
Ferns
I listened to it and loved it. I have been reading your blog and corresponding with you for some years now, and I find that actually hearing your voice really helps me to put your writing in perspective.
I am not sure why this is so. Perhaps it’s because it adds another dimension to what I already know about you. Whatever… I really loved the interview and only wish it could have been longer.
Also, your laughter is magical.
*smile* I know what you mean by ‘another perspective’. While I put a lot into my writing and personal correspondence, it’s still only one dimensional.
Voice is a new dimension, and I also think that an *interview* (where it’s a conversation with someone) has a very different quality from a monologue.
We are all so complex!
I’m glad you enjoyed it.
Ferns
I just found your blog about a month ago! I just finished listening to your second interview! I was LMAO when you were saying cock, cock, pussy, etc…. Your voice is very soothing! I absolutely love your laugh!! You seem very reserved. You had me LMAO multiple times! You seem like you have a great sense of humor! I enjoy your blog! I really enjoyed the reading out of your book at the end!! Oh my!!!! You naughty lil minx! Best wishes to you in the new year ! Thanks for making me laugh!
I’m glad I could make you laugh (WITH me, not AT me, right?!), and welcome to the blog! I really appreciate you taking the time to comment to say so. Hello there!
Ferns
If it makes you feel better I had no idea what a Land Shark was either… I do now
Coug
Ha! Not just me then.
Iconic American television references sometimes don’t work internationally. Whodathunkit?!
Ferns
Hey,
I just had the opportunity to listen to the pod cast. First off, you have a very nice voice, it was a pleasure to listen to.
Which leads me directly to the content. The interview gave me some serious insides. Into your mindset, into a dominant’s mind, and also into my own life, oddly enough. How I can continue to underestimate the complexity of the female mind, is just baffling.
Well, thank you for shedding some light.
Cheers
Thank you for the compliment Odin. I’m really glad you got something out of it *smile*.
Though I’d point out that people in general are incredibly complex, not just women. That’s what makes them so interesting.
Ferns