In case you’re not familiar with the term ‘elevator pitch’, it’s “a short description of an idea, product or company that explains the concept in a way such that any listener can understand it in a short period of time.”
– Wikipedia
The way it was presented to me in the corporate world was ‘imagine you’re in an elevator with someone you want to explain your product/concept to before the lift reaches their floor and the doors open’.
One sentence, maybe two. It’s only the start of a conversation but that start has to resonate.
If you can’t explain it clearly and succinctly in a sentence or two, you need to simplify it.
I’ve been working on my vanilla dating ‘elevator pitch’ for the ‘why bdsm?’ question.
The best I’ve come up with so far is this:
For me, D/s feels like love, and BDSM play is about shared intimacy and vulnerability.
BOOM!
Of course to USE it, I have to get back on some dating sites. And find an elevator :P.
Trying to work up a social appetite for that. The former, not the latter.
By the way, collarspace is (surprisingly) still sort-of working. It’s certainly not BETTER than when I wrote this post about its demise, and at any given time various functionality may or may not work, the ‘Join Community’ button may or may not take you to alt, new accounts or profile edits may or may not be approved, and etc, but it does still exist.
I’ve not found any viable BDSM dating site alternatives that are actively onboarding large numbers of people yet. If you know of one give me a shout about it.
27 comments
That is a really good elevator pitch. As you know from my countless really long emails, I don’t think I can elevator pitch anything. *laughs* I am going to start trying to learn to do that now. I get asked “why are you submissive” or “how are you submissive” and I always find it difficult to explain it accurately and without a very long detailed explanation.
I think ‘accurately’ is something else because complexity and nuance.
An elevator pitch is the bare bones of it, and if they want to know more, they will ask for more. If not, you’ve hopefully communicated the crux :).
Ferns
BDSM is one way that actual healthy adults have found a way to try to sort out, or perhaps just defuse, the messed up ways they have experienced power and sex in their lives, by turning it in to shared play. Or, it can just be sexy fun.
Oh, sorry you missed your floor.
LOL.
Though my goal here was for the personal, not the generic, so it should be about you, what is it to you and why do you do it. Not about some theoretical ‘healthy adults’ :).
Ferns
BDSM play is non-sexual sex. D/s is what healthy loving people do.
Okay, but that doesn’t tell me why YOU do it.
Aside: What’s with dudes and making statements about some generic ‘other people’?
CF, why BDSM? What do you get out of it? Just… why?
Ferns
Off the top of my head?
Because it’s intimate, yet has much broader potential for creativity and exploration than just sex. And also because I find many of the women who do it (as tops/sadists) attractive, or interesting (not in the usual eye candy sense, the creative and psychological ones.)
For me, D/s is an agreed upon format of communication; BDSM, the way I most enjoy it, is about about Female empowerment and male vulnerability.