My first submissive still carries a scar and a piercing that I gave him almost 20 years ago.
This makes me happy.
Because… mine.… Continue Reading
Traditional power signifiers and D/s
I like to think I’m above it, of course: giving value to traditional power signifiers conveyed by social norms.
But I’m not.
Education, sophistication, success, intelligence, achievement, wealth are all ways that many of us ‘traditionally’ place people on the power spectrum. I know some of you are now going ‘not all of us!’ and I know that. I ALSO want to go ‘not me!’, but that’s not true. I’m pretty solidly middle class and grew up with those values.
I recently spied on some people I used to know at school and university using my friend Google, and my … Continue Reading
Communicating the hard stuff
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So the question for you all is – how do you communicate best? Within the dynamic or by stepping outside of it?
I see some form of this question come up from time to time and I suspect I normally give some answer without giving it a lot of real thought. This time I’m not really even answering the question at all. Ha!
I know that I’ve done poorly at … Continue Reading
D/s break ups
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“How should Masters/Dominants try and help their submissive/slave move forward? What, according to the Dominant are they owed? What do THEY owe their submissive’s in turn? What kind of post-relationship aftercare is provided due to the intensity of D/s relationships in comparison to vanilla ones?”
My D/s relationships are monogamous, romantic, love-based partnerships. When they end, we are both a mess, and at its best, we both try and be … Continue Reading
Oh baby
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“Oh baby,” she whispered.
He opened his eyes slowly, lazy eyelashes fluttering as if they were weighted, as if it took all of his strength to manoeuvre them open. He managed a moment’s connection, catching her gaze briefly before they closed again.
“Hmmm?” It wasn’t a question, not really.
“Oh… baby,” she whispered again, her breath hot against his ear, all the desperate need for him floating in the air, … Continue Reading
More on neediness
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greg made this comment on my last:
Thought provoking post. I never thought about it this way. It makes sense, but it sounds difficult to sort out…
I never really thought about it this way before either and I think it IS difficult to sort out. The fact that we all subconsciously navigate this all the time (sometimes well, sometimes poorly) is interesting to me.
It relates to something that I have had in the back of my mind for a long time but that I struggle … Continue Reading
Neediness
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I’ve just started reading Ann St Vincent’s blog. It’s a very personal sex and relationship blog, not femdom, but one of those wonderful blogs where the author shares themselves in such a way that you become engaged in their story.
She has recently talked about Andrew, a new man in her life (part 1, part 2 of recent developments), and in all of the angsty reflection that she is going through, she described herself as ‘needy’.
I started thinking about the idea of neediness and … Continue Reading