e[lust] #99

October 17, 2017 No Comments

I haven’t been a top 3 pick for AGES, so it’s a lovely thing (apparently angsty-vanilla-me writes better than non-angsty-femdom-me, I am not sure what to make of that…).

Welcome to Elust 99–

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #100 Start with the rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

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femdom dating/ musing

So… ghosting is an acceptable thing now

October 12, 2017 54 Comments

ghosting
ghost·ing \ ˈgō-stiŋ \
noun
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2. the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

It’s been a thing for a long time, the origins of the term date back to 2006, and it was added to the Merriam-Webster dictionary in February this year.

What has changed, and what I’m seeing more of lately, is people strenuously defending ghosting as a perfectly valid and acceptable relationship-ending option, and insisting that anyone who doesn’t think so is being entitled. Because ‘nobody owes you anything’.

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Loves: 15

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femdom relationships/ happy femdom story

My ‘Happy Femdom Stories’ book is out!

October 1, 2017 10 Comments

Behold the beauty of my new ‘Happy Femdom Stories’ book!

The book is full of joyful stories from F/m folks talking about how they found their partners and what happened next.

In 2011, I did a call out on my blog asking dominant women and submissive men to send me their happy femdom stories and they responded with beautiful accounts of their relationships. In this book, I share 25 heart-warming, joyful, and hopeful real-life femdom relationship stories gathered from people who live them.

The authors tell personal stories of meeting their F/m partners, building their femdom relationships, and how … Continue Reading

Loves: 9

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musing/ randomness

Brittle

September 25, 2017 52 Comments

'Sea Urchin in Shedd Aquarium' by Ingvar-fed

I feel brittle.

I don’t know why exactly. Well I guess I know why, I just don’t want to say so.

Not just brittle, but spiky. Edgy. Fragile. Irritated and impatient.

Breakable.

I’m busy being busy. Doing all the things, and doing nothing, making noise for myself, distracting myself from whatever is going on.

It works for the most part.

But I am caught in a quiet moment right now. Can’t concentrate enough to talk myself out of the quiet.

I will, though. In a moment. I can’t rest here, if I stop I am vaguely worried that I won’t … Continue Reading

Loves: 19

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links

e[lust] #98

September 20, 2017 No Comments

elust is a monthly publication of links to a wide variety of blog posts about sex. It provides an excellent sex-positive resource for the sex blogging community to submit what they feel is their best/favourite post of the last month for each digest. For readers, it’s a great way to discover new sex bloggers.

Enjoy.

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Welcome to Elust 98–

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advice/ advice for Dommes/ advice for male subs/ audio/ podcast/ QnA

Reader Q&A Femdom Podcast #99: Healthy pain play, how do I…, F/m events [Audio]

September 17, 2017 21 Comments

Music by M.M.

This Reader Q&A femdom podcast is over an hour long(!) and includes the following:

Telling a dominant I like that I’m transgender
You are shit at marketing (it’s true, I am!)
How do you learn to cause someone pain in a good and healthy way?
For those submissive men who are looking, some examples of your competition
Cuckolding: Is she still dominant if she gets dominated by her ‘bull’?
What kinds of fetish wear do women like on men?
Dominance to help someone get out of their own head?
I met a dude who’s submissive, now what?
How to approach

Loves: 5

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found femdom

“Not dressing men”

September 14, 2017 13 Comments

'Not Dressing Men' by SuiStudio

“Not dressing men” is the super-smart tagline attached to these stunning shots advertising women’s suits. The marketing is by suit maker SuiStudio, whose traditional line is for men.

That it plays beautifully into the CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) kink is a complete coincidence…