How does femdom work?

Someone asked a question that was essentially ‘how does femdom work’ in one of the forums I frequent, or more specifically they were aksing how do femdom relationships work, and I thought I’d share an embellished version of my answer here.

“How does your F/m relationship work? Does your sub have to be a docile mouse all the time?”

I’m single at the moment, but when I have a submissive, he is my romantic, monogamous, long-term partner. He’s the love of my life, my sweetheart, my best friend, and my submissive. I choose men who are smart, opinionated, thoughtful types, … Continue Reading

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Femdom: Is this a scam?

Femdom scams are common. Soooo common. The truth is that if you’re asking ‘is this a femdom scam?’, it’s probably a femdom scam :/.

I’ve written about femdom scams a few times over the years:

  • This is what a scam looks like*
  • Scammers come in different flavours*
  • Should I pay tribute?
  • *Note: My older posts have not kept up with the fast pace of technology: As mentioned below, a simple, very useful check used to be to do a reverse image search on their (usually stolen) pictures and I pushed this pretty hard. It’s absolutely still Continue Reading

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    Shit Ferns says #16

    Random shit I’ve said, no context (if you want more of this in real time: This is pretty much ‘me on Twitter’ :)).

    Obviously I only write true highbrow literary works because I only ever use ‘come’.
    Nevaaarrr ‘cum’. No-one in my writing gets to to ‘cum’.
    COLD DEAD HANDS and etc :P

    She beats both of them senseless for having the absolute wrong focus here :P

    This is a thing people do for fun.
    I’M SUSPICIOUS

    I made plans to go for a bike ride after pilates and now I’m mad at past-me, the ‘let’s-go-do-things!’ chirpy fucking arsehole

    THIS

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    Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #113 [Audio]

    © 'Ferns Femdom Podcast' by and of Ferns. Music by M.M. Transcript by MFMWKE.

    This fabulous femdom podcast includes the following:

    • A big thank you to my Patreon supporters (because of course)
    • A sweet little happy femdom story (yay!)
    • Advice on getting into phone domming
    • Resources for a new Domme (tip: My non-fiction book list)
    • Should I consider a much older partner?
    • Should I seek out a pro-Domme for this fantasy?
    • How do I handle a serious issue with my long term dominant partner?
    • What do you like about punching?
    • SPECIAL: A spanking story from my audio erotica on Patreon
    • And more!

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    Positivity is hard

    I’m struggling a little, let’s be honest here.

    I’m still tweeting, still posting on Fetlife, I’m still producing audio porn, I even recorded a new podcast (coming soon, though an early unedited version is up on my Patreon!) but for here, for my blog, my mind is empty.

    The first of the above is daily frippery, the second is direct responses to questions, the third is based on content that already exists, and the fourth was a ton of will-do–this-thing-dammit mental energy. And none are comparable to what I do here on the blog.

    What I do … Continue Reading

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    e[lust] #133

    Welcome to Elust 133-

    The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #134? Start with the rules, come back September 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

    ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

    Shitty Dating Advice Marketing I’m Sick Of

    Birthday nude: Is this what you want?

    This One Was Just Right: A Goldilocks Story

    ~ Featured Posts by our

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    Is this what you want? Part II

    Ferns, July 2020 (censored)

    Continued from Part I of this femdom fiction story.

    She pulled back before their lips touched, hooked her thumb behind his bottom teeth and held his chin. He stopped, staying stock still in her hand, unsure what she wanted. His confusion quickly cleared as she redirected his face down her body towards her pussy.

    Moaning softly at the way she just put him where she wanted, he shuffled into position between her legs, reached out with the flat of his tongue, and started with a gentle lick. And then another, just a taste of her, teasing himself as much … Continue Reading

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