Femdom: Is this a scam?

Femdom scams are common. Soooo common. The truth is that if you’re asking ‘is this a femdom scam?’, it’s probably a femdom scam :/.

I’ve written about femdom scams a few times over the years:

  • This is what a scam looks like*
  • Scammers come in different flavours*
  • Should I pay tribute?
  • *Note: My older posts have not kept up with the fast pace of technology: As mentioned below, a simple, very useful check used to be to do a reverse image search on their (usually stolen) pictures and I pushed this pretty hard. It’s absolutely still Continue Reading

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    Should I pay tribute?

    There are a LOT of questions everywhere all the time from new submissives asking whether paying a tribute is a normal thing when looking for a personal or love-based F/m relationship.

    Why do they ask this?

    Often it’s because they’ve already handed over some money to someone and instead of it leading to a meeting and the start of a beautiful relationship, it led to, you guessed it, a request for more money. Or they’ve talked to any number of dominant women and at some point in the conversation, they all asked for money.

    When it’s raised in discussions, some … Continue Reading

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    Reader Q&A: Am I being scammed?

    I’m newly introduced to potential fem dom /sex slave thing, and after receiving couple email tasks, very hot pictures and a 1min long video clip, I’m tempted to get in. My mistress(she wants me to call her such) is now asking for training kit fee of $1200 for equipment and toys via western union, moneygram or interact -e-transfer.

    Is this normal or scam?

    She seems very good at what she’s doing in manipulating my mind, and I am truly probably going to make the commitment and then find out if it was a scam indeed. I have been convinced this … Continue Reading

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    Scammers come in different flavours

    So you got contacted by an uber hottie… whoo hoo!! She’s from your home town and she is super keen on you and thinks you are special… that’s so awesome!! She wants to claim you as her slave… yesss!!! You’ve been talking for a couple of weeks… it’s going great! She seems to be moving really fast, but ok, that’s fine… good even! And she hasn’t asked you for money so SHUT UP FERNS!!

    There are scammers who will invest in you if they are after more than the few dollars they can get from having you join some BDSM … Continue Reading

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    This is what a scam looks like

    So, you (submissive male ‘you’) have emailed with someone for a while, she seems perfect, she ‘gets’ you, you have a lot in common, she likes your kinks, she thinks you are special. Then she asks for money. You go ‘hang on!’ and you baulk.

    Then she sends something like this (actual email below). It is designed to hit every insecurity and doubt button you may have.

    I am disappointed that you seem to want to fail so early and ruin everything but this is why I set this test. There are literally thousands of so called submissives who promise

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