I like to woo and seduce and flirt and reel him in, I *love* to do that, that’s how I establish the relationship and the dynamic and ‘how it will be’. The dance is a testing ground to see how we will relate, to play with each other, to find and press buttons, to push-pull and nudge at the edges.

There is a school of thought amongst some Dommes that seems to suggest that seduction is somehow disingenuous or akin to lying and therefore not within the principles of open and honest communication. They approach D/s relationships with interviews and … Continue Reading

Given my recent ranty post about having ‘children’ listed as a hard limit, I am now going to ask a question that hits hard up against that rant.

What age does someone have to be before it ok to talk to them about *their interest* in BDSM? I use the emphasis there because I am making a distinction between young people being coerced and young people who HAVE this interest, they have these feelings and they don’t know what to do with them, or where to go with them, or who they can talk to, or where they can find … Continue Reading

My twitter followers already know about this (thanks for the notes of support, folks!), but here’s the full story.

For a few months, a light coloured, flat mole on my back had been slightly bothering me. It would scab over and itch. The first couple of times, I thought I might have knocked it, but after a while, I realised that it was doing it all on its lonesome. Everyone knows that scabbing and itchy moles are No Good.

I had a punch biopsy (Ouch! Who makes up these names?! Why not ‘candy biopsy’ or ‘fluffy bunny biopsy’?!), and sure … Continue Reading