Survey: Results part I

I did have fun with this!!

I will do it in a few parts. The responses with comments are, of course, the most interesting, but also the most difficult to do a show and tell with. This first look at the survey will be the easy ones, and oh look! Graphs! Whheeeee!!!

Click the graphs to get a better look at them.

** Thank you to the kind folks who provided some help with the image quality problem, particularly Étienne who spent some time with me to investigate. Look how pretty they are!

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Survey: Last chance…

I’ll be closing the survey tomorrow, making graphs (yes, yes, I am a complete nerd… but not nerdy enough to be a geek, which would make me much cooler!!) and figuring out how to hold that mirror up with all of the interesting information about you. Secrets!

I am delighted that so many quiet readers have ventured out from behind the keyboard to share some snippets with me (hello you!).

So… last chance… please do get in there and give me a piece of your mind (not an important piece though, I’d hate for you to forget how to walk…). … Continue Reading

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Survey: Quick and dirty

There are some questions that you asked in my survey that are easy to answer, I like easy! If you want to out yourselves as the owners of said questions by fessing up in the comments, feel free… the confession box is open…

Ready? Here goes:

A daily cartoon strip?

*laugh* Ummmm… no, but that did make me laugh. And I have included a couple that I stole from elsewhere*, just for you!


(I look exactly like that, by the way…)

I cringe at ‘domme’ every time.

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Survey… exciting!

I am so delighted at the amazing responses to my survey so far that I wanted to post a premature ‘thank you!’.

I am enjoying the feedback immensely! Not only for the stats, which are interesting enough all on their own, but even more so for the fabulous comments that you are volunteering – they are thoughtful, insightful, funny, personal and often truly lovely. I am absolutely loving hearing from you!

And plus, I will get to put some of it into graphs, and you know, I love graphs!

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Sunday curiosity #7 – Survey

TOO LATE! THE SURVEY IS FERME/FINITO/OTHER F-WORDS
That means you don’t really exist… you realise that right?

Now everyone, I want you to sit quietly (shush you, Johnny…! Don’t think I can’t see you there in the back row!!) and pay attention…


Here is a test. Well, ok, not a test, a survey, but it looks kind of like a test except it’s really easy and there are no wrong answers, so not really like a test at all…


It’s (again) me being curious about you good folks who come here and read my blog…


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Sunday curiosity #6 – Unicorn

The pure service submissive is a unicorn – rare and perhaps only found in fairy stories. A service submissive is one who gets satisfaction from serving, not performing ‘personal service’ (i.e. sexual acts), not engaging in kinky latex-maid-outfit dusting, not providing service as prepayment for play rewards. Pure service submissives get satisfaction from serving.

I found this description from a submissive who has engaged in this sort of service and I think it explains the frame of mind very well:

What appealed in it for me at the time was the mindset of doing very well at my tasks, from

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‘Force’ as a kink *

Nobody ever talks about ‘force’ as a kink.

We frequently hear about ‘forced’ activities, but the focus is always on the activity rather than the force.

Now, I know the term ‘force’ raises some hackles, so how about we say force = coercion? It doesn’t have to be physical, it can be mental or emotional or simply ‘force of will’.

So let me set a scene. I *make* my boy do something that he genuinely doesn’t like (not a hard limit)… No gun to his head – I may shove him about, use my serious ‘don’t fuck with me’ voice, … Continue Reading

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