When vanilla and… not… collide

In the last 24 hours, on two separate occasions, I have told two vanilla men that I write ‘a sex blog’ and given them the name of it *.

That’s two vanilla men who I met while going about my business.

That’s two vanilla men who have my real name and phone number.

That’s two vanilla men who can now peek in here (hello R, L… yes, yes, this post is totally about you!).

That’s two more vanilla men than I have ever told EVER EVER EVER (unless my vanilla ex counts… he doesn’t does he? No no, he totally … Continue Reading

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Taking submission

“If you are a slave in robes, if all you desire is to bend to the will of men, if you have no experience as a dominant personality, then you CANNOT handle me. You have been warned.”

See, I *should* find that profile text silly and petulant and childish.

But, I don’t. At all.

It amuses me, makes me smile. I find it interesting, intriguing, truthful, with an arrogance that is strangely appealing. This is a man who has had some disappointing experiences, one who is strong and confident, one who will not allow himself to be walked over, one … Continue Reading

Loves: 5
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My sent emails III

Sure, be here on Friday. Bring cake. I like cake.

Ferns

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*drool*

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Yes, of course, but you have the cake, right? There is no point without cake.

Ferns

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…???

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I like chocolate cake, what kind of cake do you like? I can’t wait until I get my cake.

Ferns

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…!!!

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CAAKKKKEEEEE!!! Cake cake cake cake caaaakkkeee!!!

Ferns

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The first time

I put a blindfold on him and stand close.

I lean into his ear, whisper, “You are going to undress me, and kiss me all over, starting at my feet…”

He nods, smiles broadly, “Yes Ma’am!”

He is nervous, eager, shifting from foot to foot.

He reaches out tentatively to make contact with me, starts at the top with my shirt, fumbling awkwardly to get it off, touching my bra when it is exposed, he runs his hands cautiously over the fabric to find the clasp. He does not grope at me, feather touches, finding the clasp, releasing it, easing … Continue Reading

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My sent emails II

Yes yes, I am totally trawling my sent emails for blogging material. Deal with it.

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A very kind and astute reader of this blog informed me that she had found a photo of my boy on a profile on CollarMe. Was it my boy? Nooooo, it was not…

Really??!!

Strangers on the internet tell lies and are not to be trusted??!! I can scarcely believe it!

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Hello lying_scumbag,

The photo you have on your profile is one that I took of my submissive.

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My sent emails I

Welcome to my Sent emails folder. Enjoy.
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Hello best_slave_evaevaeva,

Do you know what impresses dominant women? Smart men. Do you know what smart men do? They read profiles of said dominant women and only email those who say they are looking for what the man has to offer.

Then, when they email this dominant woman who is looking for the same thing that they are looking for, they do so with a view to getting to know her better, to exchange information, to have a normal conversation, to see if they are compatible.

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Loves: 3
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Trust and control

I have been having some discussions recently about specific things that could be interpreted either as testing trust or exercising control. The act is the same, the intent is not.

If you are exerting control because you don’t trust your partner, you have a problem.

Let me say it again…

If you are exerting control because you don’t trust your partner, you have a problem.

Not a little one either, a big huge gigantic problem.

  • Are you putting him in a chastity device to stop him cheating on you?
  • Are you asking for his email or kink site passwords because
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