Reader QnA: How do I start? Advice for a new dominant

Do you have any advice or a sort of primer for girls who want to experiment with being a domme? Like how to find partners, how to open that dialogue, what kind of ‘moves’ to try, what equipment is needed, how to explore the realm of activity… it really appeals to me, but I don’t know where to start.

Hello there anonymous asker,

These are great and huge questions.

My first piece of advice is to clarify in your own mind what ‘being a domme’ means to you. There’s no ‘one true way’ to be a dominant. D/s relationships run … Continue Reading

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My sent emails XLIV

From 29M sub:
Subject: please talk me about ur sex

please talk me about ur sex

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Me: is the sexiest sex that ever sexed when sexy sexing was required

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Him: bitch

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Me: Mmhmmm

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Relationships from hell

It had never occurred to me that I might be someone’s ‘relationship from hell’.

I have spoken about my own at times: in my mid-twenties, a relationship with a man who would not give an inch of ground on anything ever and into which I threw a level of rage I’d not have thought I had in me. A relationship that felt like a war zone into which I ran every day with guns blazing, wearing a deep and abiding unhappiness under my clothes, and wondering why I didn’t leave already.

It feels, almost, like a rite of passage, at … Continue Reading

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Bloggery graph porn!

Nlikes over at My Dissolute Life has posted some graph porn showing his posting history (wow, he’s had some prolific months!).

I was jealous (I mean… graph porn!!), so I thought I would steal his idea and do the same. I thought I might even see some patterns since I feel like I am in a bit of a writing slump right now. Maybe it’s seasonal! Maybe it’s life stuff!

*click for bigger versions*

Posts per month

Hmmm… not really very enlightening. I average around 13 posts a month. I do remember a time when letting 2 days pass without a post made … Continue Reading

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Meeting with a submissive man

We had been emailing/chatting for some 12 months (he checked yesterday: his first email to me was 1st September last year). Perhaps we had some voice calls also, I forget.

He’s a local boy, sweet and smart, quite a bit younger than me. Our contact was on and off, he developed a crush, but he’s not a potential. He’s partnered and his relationship was messy. Even meeting for a friendly chat over coffee made me uncomfortable, so I refused to do it. Plus, if you are a regular reader here you would know that I really hate meeting people and … Continue Reading

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So domlydomdom I can’t stand it…

I saw this attempt to have cybersex with Cleverbot on tumblr and it made me laugh so hard :D.

cleverbot

I’ve had some fun with Cleverbot before, but not attempted cyber fornication. Of course I thought “Imma try this”!

Me: Cybersex.

Cleverbot: You are cyborg?

You start.

Okay. Banana.

*takes off shirt*.

Is that legal?

*takes off pants*.

Now kneel.

*kneels*.

Now say, I will obet [sic… wtf?].

I will obey.

We will obey each other.

No, you will be my bitch.

I will be your slave…

Kiss my feet, slave.

*kisses master’s feet*.

Not master, Mistress.

Sorry, mistress.… Continue Reading

Loves: 6
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So, what’s goin’ on?

Come and have a seat and let me tell you what’s going on with me…

NOTHING!!

NOTHING IS GOING ON WITH ME!!!

*sigh*

So I’m going to hark back to some random things that I left hanging.

What happened to balloon guy?

He replied to my email quite politely, and it was clear that he was in fact skilled in cleaning (he ran some sort of office maintenance company), but the tone of his email was off-putting to me. Even though it was polite enough, it was clear to me that he really wasn’t interested in engaging with me, … Continue Reading

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