Thank you so much to everyone who entered.
The winner of ‘Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut‘ by Sinclair Sexsmith is Krystal!
Congratulations, Krystal!
Expect a copy of the book to arrive in your inbox shortly.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.… Continue Reading
After reading a post from a submissive man essentially saying, “I really like this dominant woman, she makes my heart flutter, but I’m concerned that I’m too eager to do the small and insignificant things she asks me for this early in our discussions: I’m not sure I’m comfortable with that”, I reflected a little on the oddness of that.
And it led me to this realisation:
You know what I’ve found?
Vanilla men are often WAAAYYY more secure in being sweet and lovely than many submissive men and as a result, they often do ‘submissive behaviours’ more easily and … Continue Reading
I haven’t talked about my body project for a while. There are a few reasons for that, but the main one is that I’ve been in a kind of ‘maintenance mode’ for quite a while and that’s boring to write about.
No further gains, in fact, something of a slip from what I consider my peak.
The main reason for the flattening out is that I realised that for all of the work I was doing (and at the high point, it was a LOT, including seriously good eating and protein loading), I really wasn’t getting my body into … Continue Reading
Content brought over from a discussion on Fetlife (login required).
Is it possible/likely that a sub becomes more obedient to his domme over time?
My experience is ‘yes’. And for me it’s a function of a deepening relationship.
What I mean by that is that as my submissive gets to know me, if everything is working well, his desire to submit gets stronger and so the D/s becomes ‘more’ (more meaningful, more heartfelt, more serious… more).
So while I can see obedience being binary (he either did it or didn’t do it), in the beginning, it might be a bit … Continue Reading
Sinclair Sexsmith is one of those erotica writers who makes me envious of the way they express themselves. I have been following their blog, SugarButch Chronicles, since forever, way back when they wrote intimately about their loves and relationships and sex. I would routinely read some turn of phrase in their stories of sexual exploits and be both turned on and eaten up with emerald envy at the way it was expressed.
They were also my primary source for definitive information on the first strap-on harness I ever got since I figured an experienced butch top who had tried … Continue Reading
Yingtai was kind enough to ask me a question in my last post’s comments and save me from my non-bloggery (thank you!).
When I started my blog I desperately wanted advice on what a future dom might NOT want me to write about. God knows my past doms have been a lot more private than I am. (I think subs must have some kind of compulsion to confess.)
*smile* Now of course I have zero idea what a future dom might not want you to write about, but I CAN tell stories…
I’d say first off that as a dominant, … Continue Reading
I am so fucking frustrated with the semi-anonymous nature of this blog and what it means for my writing.
Oh how easy it was to write when the boy I wrote about was mine: When I owned him and I owned our stories and they were mine to share as I wanted. The only rule I had for myself was to never write anything that would surprise or hurt him. And that was an easy guideline to follow because our communication was pretty damn good.
Now there are complications in writing about what is going on in my life because … Continue Reading