That’s all.
The intimacy of tenderness, the aggressive exploration, the vulnerability of violence.
Doesn’t seem like too much to ask, does it?… Continue Reading
Casual encounters
I wonder if my sex life would have been (be) radically different if I felt safe trying to get little snippets of what I want from casual partners, men I don’t know.
The safety aspect I mean here is not just about potential violence or sexual assault (though those are top-of-mind, of course), but about being able to have casual encounters play out in a way that works for me. Expecting that of a stranger is a big call, especially when it’s unconventional. Expecting him not to question it or angle for more in the moment is also a big … Continue Reading
So whose bicep IS that?
Here are the results of our bicep guessing game.
- Only one person publicly got them all 100% right in the comments (yay you, Berkson)!
Well, technically, Thumper also got 100% right in the comments, but I know that he *actually* only got 7 right (because he said so). I assume he did the quiz, then accidentally transcribed the correct ANSWERS shown at the end into his comment.
- Only one (Anonymous) person who did the quiz got them 100% right. I can’t parse out any more detailed stats (like ‘how many guessed what’ from the quiz-doers. Boo!).
Results (thank … Continue Reading
I like bruises
Not on me, though that would be handy because I’m a delicate flower and always have bruises of some sort. You know the kind: those ones that appear in odd places and you have no idea how they got there. The ones where you run into something and think ‘Wow, that’s gonna bruise later’, but later when you find it, you have no recollection of what you did to deserve it.
Not that kind.
I like the ones that I leave on him.
The marks of time spent trying to get through his skin so I can touch him from … Continue Reading
e[lust] #70
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Whose bicep is that?
Some of the Ferns Workout Crew (#fwocrew) are participating in a little game of ‘whose bicep is that?’ (thanks @DommeFarenheit for the idea!). You’re most welcome to join in if you want *smile*!
We have each submitted a bicep picture (on the right below) and I’ve put our twitter names on the left. Of course the object is to match them up (A-3 for example).
It’s a fun bit of silliness that obviously works better if you know a little about us (I’m sure many of you will recognise the names of some very talented sex bloggers … Continue Reading
Reader Q&A: Genderfluidity, LDR to live-in & attraction
Q&A time!
These questions came in from some lovely readers via my Ask Me page. I do love that you ask me things, thank you for them!
In case you sent one in and don’t see it here, no this is NOT all of them… the post got really long, so I saved some for later.
So let’s goooo…
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Dear Ferns,
I recently came across your first book while researching for a speech I’m giving on BDSM; though it ended up being a bit too *ahem* in-depth for the speech, on note, I thoroughly enjoyed it! (Enough that I’m … Continue Reading