Meeting a sub… or not

I mentioned in this post that I’d set up a time for drinks with a lovely young submissive who wrote me a stellar introductory email and with whom I’ve been emailing since.

The meeting was today in fact (wow, writing every day really does make this all a bit ‘real-time’ doesn’t it?).

He’d read a lot of my content, done his research, even found my personal ad and said he met all the criteria in it :). He’s young, almost half my age, but in our emails, I’d not asked too many age-related questions because I was trying not to … Continue Reading

Loves: 24
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Fear of flying

I don’t have a fear of flying. I have a fear of failure.

My fear of failure is so great that I couldn’t bear to put the word ‘failure’ in the title. Telling, no?

I genuinely believe that this fear impacts a lot of aspects of my life. Both in my past and in the present.

I am envious of those who have that fear, but try to fly anyway. Madly flapping their arms and running as fast as they can towards some cliff-edge, wishing and working for it.

I know: Big bad Domme scared of failure. How… undomly :P.… Continue Reading

Loves: 17
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Concern vs infantilization

It’s great to be concerned about people, to care, to worry if you think they are doing something that’s bad for them. Of course.

But in the D/s domain, I see a lot of concern-trolling from dominants towards submissives who they don’t even know, and the underlying thought process is a patronising level of ‘poor little ones don’t know what they’re doing, they’re only subs after all, I shall gift them with my superior knowledge’, and it grinds my gears.

There’s ‘being concerned’ and there’s ‘infantilization’, and for me the line is in assessing situations for what they are vs … Continue Reading

Loves: 12
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Sexy audio porn: A literary reading

Twitter as literary source? You betcha!

Author: @Party_Harderson
Story thread: Excerpt from the sexy kinky book…

*takes a bow*

You’re welcome :D.… Continue Reading

Loves: 7
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Domme Chronicles book: On sale for a limited time

Domme Chronicles: Tales of love, passion & domination, my book of femdom erotica vignettes, is LESS THAN HALF PRICE on Amazon for a limited time.

It’s definitely not a Valentine’s day sale, though it is on special until the 14th. This is an utter coincidence!

Normally $6.99, currently $2.99.


Here’s what people said about it in their 5 star reviews:

— “Both fierce & touching, playful one moment & violent the next”

— “This is a real jewel. Gritty and nasty, soft and sweet.”

— “Ferns’ book is amazing.”

— “Some of [the stories] are quite brutal but at

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Dating & socialising #dommelife

I have had a very uncharacteristic surge of social energy in the last month or so.

So much so that I invited kinky strangers to my house (what?!) prior to going to a BDSM party next month (double what?!!).

Both of those things are so much out of character that it seems somewhat bizarre, even to me.

WHAT DID YOU DO WITH FERNS?!

One of the catalysts for this sudden outreach is that my best friend (my vanilla ex, who is the loveliest of lovelies) is in a bit of trouble with his relationship, and it has come to my … Continue Reading

Loves: 19
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My sent emails LI

I sent this after a couple of exchanges where I addressed his ‘online cam slave looking for a mistress’ inquiry by suggesting he look for a reputable pro-Domme who can serve his desires.

Hello ‘slave’,

“But I don’t want a pro domme I want to be with one mistress in a fulfilling relationship”

This is a ridiculous statement given you’ve already explained what you want, and it’s this:

“I’m an online cam slave seeking a mistress I have few limits and I’m into degrading tasks on cam”
“she’ll (for example) [do this sexy thing to me do that sexy Continue Reading

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