Speaking of BDSM in the mainstream, this real estate listing in Maple Glen, PA. went out with photos of their fully furnished dungeon basement in it.

It went viral, which obviously shows the titillation value of it and no doubt achieved the agent’s goal of maximum exposure.

The real estate sites, though, did take the photos down after it got a lot of publicity, so the pearl-clutchers were close at hand to shut it down when they got wind of it :/.

You (yes you! :P) have two options here:

1. Buy this house for $750K (5 bedroom, 2.5 … Continue Reading

Years ago, I created a tribute to the beauty of submissive men, with contributions from submissive men and from those who love them. It is still my most favourite project, and illustrates, truly, how the nature of beauty is so much more complex than it seems on the surface.

This video is the result of those generous contributions.

Submissive men: A celebration of beauty

Let me say this without any slight on him: My last submissive was not a conventionally handsome man. He was not the kind of man who would attract surreptitious admiring looks when he walked down the … Continue Reading

I already shared this on twitter, so if you follow me there (and why wouldn’t you?!), you’ve heard this story already :).

This is a story about that one time some dude got super mad because he thought someone was saying he had a small dick (spoiler: they weren’t).

As a moderator of a large F/m discussion group, I get an email from That Angry Dude (TAD) because someone in a thread attacked him and WHY AREN’T I ON TOP OF IT THIS IS BULLSHIT.

TAD’s already mad, but attacks ARE bullshit. So I check the thread, I don’t see … Continue Reading

I’m always surprised by pegging coming up in mainstream media. It is becoming more common in the same way chastity is finding its way into the mainstream.

I was going to compile a whole list with links, but look, I’m up against the deadline for posting today (I nearly forgot!), so I’m just putting out what I had in the depths of my 180+ drafts (it’s a mess in there). Don’t judge me!

This in Cosmopolitan magazine from 2016 where they interview three men, one of whom identifies as submissive:
“I’m a Straight Guy Who Loves Pegging”.

Then Cosmo … Continue Reading

If you’re on the internet, you’ve been lied to. Maybe in small ways that don’t matter, maybe in egregious ways that did a number on you.

For me, as a dominant woman with a certain level of visibility who’s looking for a partner, I get lied to by self-identified submissive men over and over.

Mostly they are so bad at it that it’s a non-event, an eyeroll, something funny.

But some of them seem plausible, until they’re proven not to be. It gets tiring and depressing. This is how women on the internet get jaded and cynical, despite their best … Continue Reading

In F/m, using sex as a reward seems to be a thing. Where the sub’s good behaviour earns sex.

If folks enjoy it, great. But to me it’s the grossest thing.

On all levels.

In my mind, it leads to scenarios like this:

• Ugh I don’t feel like having sex but he’s ‘earned’ it so I suppose I have to now
• I feel like having sex but he was ‘naughty’ yesterday, so I guess I don’t get any
• Gee I hope he’s ‘good’ so I can get some sex
• I hope he’s disobedient, I don’t feel like having sex today