This is not a ‘poor me’ post, just a ‘hey, it goes both ways you know!’ post.

I know that the impression is pretty much always that a Domme puts an ad out and then weeds out those who don’t suit her.

But don’t forget that it goes both ways.

Anyone who approaches me (or who I approach for that matter) has the equal ability and right and responsibility to reject me at any time if they think we aren’t a match.

Do you think it doesn’t happen? You’d be wrong.

*gasp horror vapours*

Of course it does.

It’s disappointing … Continue Reading

To me, romance is doing something sweet to show someone that you are thinking of them, something to make them happy, to make them feel special. It’s the little gestures that demonstrate that feeling.

Following on from a really lively Twitter conversation a while back, Mistress Lilyana has written a really interesting post on ‘Romantic shit‘. Go and read it.

In summary, she said that her submissives have, for the most part, not romanced her. She theorises:

“Perhaps there is something about me that repels romantic gestures. Maybe I’m too independent. It’s true. I’ll buy my own damn