femdom relationships/ happy femdom story

Happy femdom story: LoveMyPet

March 31, 2013 5 Comments

I received a really lovely encouraging note from LoveMyPet wishing me luck with my upcoming meeting with bambi (thank you!!). In it, she shared her wonderful story about her first meeting with her boy. It was so terribly sweet and happy-making, I asked if I could share it. I’m beyond pleased that she agreed. So very lovely! Enjoy!

Author: LoveMyPet

My sub and I met on second life. Were a couple there for months, but we lived 3000 miles apart. I will give you the condensed version, lol. He bought his plane ticket and came to me.

I had a … Continue Reading

Loves: 14

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Honesty sometimes feels like manipulation

February 25, 2013 65 Comments

Sometimes it’s hard to be honest without feeling manipulative.

Sometimes I know what the outcome of honesty is going to be, so it feels like I am manoeuvring that outcome by *being* honest. That can be a hard mindset to let go of.

I suspect that more submissives have experienced this dilemma than dominants.

Submissive [honest statement]: “I really like it when you just tell me what to do without asking me.”
*cue your dominant doing that more*
*you feel vaguely guilty, like maybe they don’t really want to do that, and are just doing it for you*

Right? … Continue Reading

Loves: 11

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Happy femdom story: Katherine (an update)

February 12, 2013 6 Comments

Nearly a year ago, I published Aaron’s happy femdom story. As a young submissive, Aaron wrote about finding his feet and how he was lucky enough to meet a wonderful woman with whom to share his explorations.

That wonderful woman is Katherine. I’m beyond delighted that she has sent me an update on how it is going with them. Happiness is not a constant state, not an ‘ending’: we struggle, we work at it, we slip, we fight, we recover, and if we are lucky, we suck as much joy out of it as we can.

I’m so happy … Continue Reading

Loves: 13

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Using D/s to get what I want

February 10, 2013 13 Comments

Soon after we started speaking, bambi and I talked about fitness. He told me that he was carrying too much weight and was trying to lose it. I told him that if he was mine, I would make him lose the weight (and no, I don’t care one bit how ‘politically incorrect’ that is). A day after we had that discussion, he went and got a gym membership and ramped up his efforts. I enjoyed that reaction a lot.

He sweetly wants to be at his best when we meet. And I *want* him at his best.

A week or … Continue Reading

Loves: 17

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Compromise in D/s relationships

January 24, 2013 81 Comments

I talked in my Masocast interview with the lovely UnspeakableAxe about compromising away happiness, and I’ve had a few private conversations about it since then, so I thought it was worth expanding on.

A lot of people seem to start relationships with “Oh, that’s okay, it’s not that important to me” and end up with “What the holy fuck happened here?”

There is always compromise in relationships, but there is a world of difference between small ‘c’ compromise and capital ‘C’ Compromise.

Small ‘c’ compromise is about each side making concessions so that you can both be happy: talking about … Continue Reading

Loves: 25

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femdom relationships/ musing

Hunger games

January 22, 2013 23 Comments

I speak often about the hunger that drives my dominance. Really, when I am in it, that’s all I write about, in different ways, with different contexts: I am essentially just saying the same thing over and over.

I have a passionate crazy hunger that I ache to let loose, that I look to escalate and satiate, a feeling that makes me want to strip the very skin off my boy’s bones so I can shove myself inside him.

When I’m single, and it’s dormant, though, I wonder if it ever existed at all. I remember it, of course, but … Continue Reading

Loves: 13

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Happy femdom story: Najakcharmer

January 9, 2013 5 Comments

I have been a fan of Najakcharmer’s posts and writings for a long time, and her fabulous long term poly relationship with her two men has been a thread throughout. This is a story about a happy, healthy, wonderful poly relationship full of love and primal passion. It’s long, but totally worth it…

Author: Najakcharmer

“Eventually the whip arm gets weary, and you find yourself in the same room with an adult human being who has a mind and a personality and a voice. Should he not also be good company and compatible as well as a good submissive, this … Continue Reading

Loves: 10

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