Q&A – Big dick subs (yes, really!)

Q&A from Fetlife discussions…

Q:
I hear big-dick subs are rare. Have any women been searching for a big-dick sub and would you accept a first-timer on account of his meeting the physical standards you desire?

A:
~rolls eyes~ Yes, you are sooo rare and a speshul snowflake and all the dominant wimmins will want you because you have a sizable dick because that is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER and most submissive men don’t have a dick at all, at least, that’s what I’ve heard so it must be true…

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Comments feed – helpful hints for the NSFW crowd…

In my survey responses someone mentioned that they were restricted from accessing my blog (at work?), so could only read it via my feed. However, they were unable to see comments, and were missing seeing them because “that section has such a nice interactive / community feel about it”… (it SO does, I absolutely adore it!!).

I hate to think of you missing out, so wanted to let you know that there is a comments feed here that you can subscribe to also.

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Sunday curiosity #10

My very first curiosity post was waaaay back at the end of 2009. It was the first time I invited you to ask me questions… I mean, who the hell is this ‘Ferns’ anyway?! Her ‘About Me‘ information totally sucks and she pretends like she is going to actually write something there BUT SHE NEVER DOES!!!

Given I am shamelessly asking you to answer questions about yourselves in my survey, I thought it only fair that I resurrect the dead and buried “Sunday Curiosity” and invite you to ask me questions and I will make up stuff bare … Continue Reading

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My sent emails XIX

Hello wishfulsub,

It’s none of my business, really, but I sometimes send notes to submissive men who I think are shooting themselves in the foot.

Re your post:

When you ignore messages from newbies like me you are probably missing out on the potential of a great sub…. [etc.]

Your profile picture is likely to put off 99.9% of women. Honestly, when you are contributing in a thread or sending an email, you are, at the same time, screaming, “Look… LOOK… I have a thing… a THING STUCK UP MY BUTT!!!”.

It is really offputting.

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Half naked sweaty slaves… *drool*

Spartacus: Gods of the Arena, I am a fan.

I cannot believe I missed the first series, and yes, for all of you Americans who saw it 600 years ago, Gods of the Arena is JUST showing here now! It is in my calendar, Wednesday nights, I have an alarm set so that I don’t miss it.

For someone who doesn’t watch television (it is on, mostly unwatched sight and sound, I like to think of it as my funny-shaped friend who natters at me when I am on the internet), having a ‘must watch’ TV show is unusual.

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Hello, I’m Ferns… and you are…?

This time last year, I did a survey, then I shamelessly milked carefully analysed the results for graph porn and blog posts for as long as possible.

It was absolutely fascinating to find out who was out there quietly reading without a peep *wave*, so I have put on my best survey hat (it is a summery number, with a wide floppy brim and a cheeky tilt) and would absolutely love to hear from you.

There are only eight questions, it won’t take long… I will leave the survey open until we are all bored to death with … Continue Reading

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Q&A – Protocol

Continuing my experiment with Q&A from Fetlife discussions…

1. Is protocol an integral part of your kink, and if so, are your protocols more physical (kneeling, posture,etc) or verbal (use of titles, granting permission to speak)

I have a mixture of both, they are pretty light and they are at my whim.

2. Does protocol to you mean specific ritual actions and phrases that are for play only, or,

No, some are constants.

3.Are protocols a central and constant part of your relationship?

Yes, some are.

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