The proposition

“I have a proposition for you…”

He looks at me curiously, tilts his head… “Oookkk?”

I smile, “I’m thinking that I’d like to do some rope bondage with you.”

He looks away from me, bondage is one of his kinks, he is a complete newbie, has no experience. He is suddenly shy, awkward, he smiles nervously, starts to say something.

I interrupt him, “Don’t answer now, I want you to have a think about it.”

He nods.

I try to draw a picture of how I see it going, “I am thinking of something very gentle, not sexual, no nudity…” … Continue Reading

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Great expectations

I know full well that people’s expectations differ, of course I know that! But I have recently seen a discussion on a BDSM forum that makes me wonder how something that is a fundamental expectation in my relationships, so fundamental that I would not think I would have to stress it, is actually no big deal to others.

Here’s all of the pertinent information from the original post from a submissive:

I was supposed to go to a party with my dom and backed out at the last minute. i fucked up and i know i did. what do i

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Late night, can’t sleep

Random, unfiltered thoughts… tick tick tick tick…

Things are possible even if you wish they weren’t, or especially then.

She asked for $5 that I owe her… who asks for $5? Especially when she is far away, and it has to be given to another so that the other can put into her bank account… who does that?

My bed squeaks, lucky I am not having sex on it, I masturbate quietly, with terrible images of violence in my head, it still squeaks, though it doesn’t sound like sex, or violence, or anything interesting.

I am a little afraid and … Continue Reading

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Potential to… not…

Hello InterestingManWhoMightNeedaCuteNickIfThisGoesAnywhere,

Thank you for your honesty, I appreciate it, and I do understand. The way I do things will not suit everyone, in fact I would venture to say it suits very few.

Thank you also for the time you have spent corresponding with me, you have been very open throughout and I know that was asking a lot.

I think you have a lot to offer the right woman and wish you the very best in finding what you are looking for.

Ferns

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So, what happened? My pace was too slow for him, he honestly and … Continue Reading

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Summer wedges

Twitter followers already know that I bought two new pairs of shoes yesterday… huzzah!!!

This is the first… a pair of summer sandals, kind of butch with the plain bold straps and ‘fuck you’ buckle, they are a soft black leather with a dark brown wedge heel to femme it up…

Today I wore them out to a late lunch with my vanilla ex who I forced into admiring them and saying how pretty they are… “forced shoe appreciation”… that’s a kink, right?

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Shameless self promotion

I am rubbish at doing my own self promotion, even when I am given a prime opportunity!!

Look look!!! Waaayyy back in October I was on a “Top Sex Bloggers of 2010” list

This is the list that I forced coerced nagged encouraged you to pimp my blog for in a childish display of petulance and foot stomping, then I didn’t even gloat and show off when I made the list!!

So, a belated thank you to those who nominated me (and also some gloating and unappealing showing off)!!

[ETA Oct 2017: I just discovered that the blogger … Continue Reading

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An invitation

If I was to invite you, I would be gentle and you would be scared, despite so many, however many years of experience with women, and it would be strange to be scared, and that would scare you, and you would be talking to yourself in your head and telling yourself that it was ridiculous to be scared, of what? It made no sense, none, and still… you would be scared. I would like it that you were scared, and would not give you comfort. I would have you stand with your hands behind your head and look you over, … Continue Reading

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