Sometimes

Sometimes my passion wanes, and it is not you and it is not me, it just is.

Sometimes you feel so close to me, like you are inside me, like you are part of me and it makes me feel kind of sick, a tightness in my chest and a fullness in my throat, and I love that.

Sometimes I am happy just to hear you tell me about your day and we exchange dull stories and roll our eyes at the mundanity of it all.

Sometimes I just want to pet you, a full body stroke, with all five … Continue Reading

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My sent emails XII

This is again one where you MUST see what landed in my inbox, because… well, I like to share… I am good to you like that…

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i pooed in my diaper and so now i have to wear my dirty mess and sit in it like the pathetic piece of shit that i am.

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Me, killing myself laughing and passing it on to all my friends: OMG!! Best. Email. EVER!!! Oh god!!! Oh, and ‘Eeeeuuuwwww’… *laugh*

Is it wrong that I find that totally hilarious? Discuss!

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Actual email sent:

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Expectations

I have expectations of people I interact with, even if it’s just a friendly exchange. Those expectations vary depending on what my relationship is with them. This makes perfect sense, of course. My expectations of my boss, work colleagues, employees, of shop assistants, family members, casual acquaintances, friends etc are all slightly different.

My expectations of men, and particularly submissive men, tend towards something that could easily fall into a D/s dynamic, even if they are not potential partners. That is, if it is more than a casual encounter, if I think I will be interacting with them in more … Continue Reading

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After it ends – what do I do about…?

Ending relationships is difficult and painful and horrible.

With D/s relationships, in addition to the ‘normal’ stuff, there are often questions that sit on top of the ‘relationship is over’ emotional turmoil that you are going through.

It goes without saying that everyone is different, there are no ‘rules’, and often, even if you *think* you would do one thing, when you are in the midst of it all, the approach that you thought you would take no longer makes sense.

Given I see these quite a bit, I thought I would share some common questions and how I handled … Continue Reading

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Shopping list porn

Oddly, one of my previous posts describing actual kinky things I bought and did not buy led to some inquiries as to what actually WAS on the grocery list I mentioned (you folks are the perviest people EVER!!)…

So, here it is… shopping list porn:

  • smelly cupboard stuff
    [yes, I copied this faithfully from my list word for word… ‘stuff’ is totally valid shopping list terminology!]
  • 30 second outdoor cleaner
    [has been on the list for months, I want to clean a dining room table and chairs that have been outside and are black with mould]
  • hair clip
    [I shove
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“can a submissive man have a normal relationship?”

Yes, yes he can!!!

Hello you, yes you, the one who googled that question and found this blog:

can a submissive man have a normal relationship?

It led you to this post: Advice for the newly minted submissive man

But oh my gosh… I love that you asked that question of google! I do, I love that, thank you!!

Yes, yes you can!!

Stick around, read a little, send me an email, something, but please believe that the answer is ‘Yes’!!!

** Wondering slightly if my version of ‘normal’ is anyone else’s, but for the purposes of this post, I

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My sent emails XI

Hello fuckmeintheassrightnowmistress,

Your nick demands a sexual act, your profile says nothing about you except that you do lots of anal and CBT, your profile photo is of some woman ‘doing’ a man, your friends list is full of only hot women, you are actively seeking any kind of woman at all (orientation irrelevant), your list of interests is play only…

Seriously, your claim that “[I am] here to do what you want for your pleasure” is simply not believable because you lack imagination as to what that might mean. I am a middle aged woman who wants her car … Continue Reading

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