Trust doesn’t flow one way. I know that’s obvious, but we D/s folks talk a lot about how the submissive has to trust their Domme and all that. Yes, true. But as a dominant, I have to trust him also. I have to trust him to accept my dominance happily, I have to trust him to glow under it, […]
Defensiveness and trust
There is a line between defensiveness and trust that oddly often feels ugly to me. I don’t expect a stranger to trust me. That’s ludicrous. But I expect a potential partner to come to me with an open heart and willingness to speak to me without the expectation that I want to do him harm in some way. I have spoken to some men who are constantly defensive about me ‘taking too much’ […]