I have been wanting to send my ex boy a copy of my book. After all, it is mostly about him, he was key in encouraging me to put my writing out into the world: It exists in no small part because of and for him.
It is a selfish thing, though, this desire. It is probably kinder of me to leave him alone. But I am often not kind. My wanting to share it is about… well, in truth, I’m not even really sure what it’s about.
“This, sweetheart, is for you” or “Thank you” or “It’s us, … Continue Reading
He had a work function one evening.
Academia: he and his fellows were meant to be grabbing new creative talent and sizing them up for their faculty. He had shyly asked me if I wanted to go. I didn’t, of course. He knew that well enough, but he asked me anyway.
“Of course!” I said.
He beamed at me. It wasn’t just that I would provide moral support: I knew that he wanted to show me off and I love that, truly.
And I was happy to be asked. It would be the first ‘public couple’ thing we had really … Continue Reading
So I’m off to Fiji for a couple of weeks. I KNOW, RIGHT?!! Fun!! *smile*
If you followed me on twitter or tumblr you would already know this (why don’t you follow me on twitter or tumblr??!). You would also know a lot more about me than you probably need to know, frankly…
I will have internet access, but may not have the interest or time to post while I’m busy snorkelling and swimming and kayaking and bike riding and diving and drinking and and… well, you know… doing holiday things!
If I was a proper blogger, I’d have a … Continue Reading
Dumb Domme was asked a question about submissive men pitching woo. In her response, she referenced a post by Mistress Lilyana about her frustration that she was never romanced by submissive men and she pointed to a conversation that the three of us had about it on twitter.
I left a ranty comment on Mistress Lilyana’s post at the time and then wrote an equally ranty post here (I’d actually forgotten all about that post, and wrote THIS post before I realised I’d ALREADY FUCKING RANTED ABOUT THIS… GRRRR!).
Even before all the ranting, I’d written on ‘pitching … Continue Reading
I hear it a lot when some self-identified dominant behaves like a jerk: “They aren’t dominant, they’re just an arsehole.”
It annoys the crap out of me.
Let me tell you a little secret. Come closer now…
The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
I know!! Shocker, right?!
Some dominants ARE arseholes. Also emotionally stunted, insensitive, selfish, rude, stupid, jerk-faced fuck ups.
You don’t get to to say that those people aren’t dominant as if dominance is a trait that magically erases any negative personal characteristics: It doesn’t.
There are good people in the world.
Some of those good people are dominant.… Continue Reading
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Considering Cocks
I Love Interrogation, or Diabolical Genius
Yes all Women but Not All Men Rant
I Kissed A … Continue Reading
Crossposting from Tumblr
… Continue Reading“I follow quite a few dominant women on Tumblr, and it’s not unusual to see quite a bit of objectification of men…
But seeing some of the pictures… makes me feel self conscious about the fact that my body isn’t in the shape I want it to be in (although I’m working on it). I’ll probably never be like those guys in the pictures I see posted here. I don’t know if I’ll ever be so fit as to have an adonis belt, well defined abs, or a sculpted back.”
– Vulnerable Boy [See here for full