femdom dating

Nearly femdom-date with a maybe-submissive

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Creative Commons BY-SA 3.0 mark'Dating' by Nick Youngson

Speaking of newbies, I’m raising this femdom dating story that has been languishing in my drafts since last year. It’s lingered there un-posted because I couldn’t tease anything worthwhile out of it, but look, when I’m trying to post every damn day in June, you get what you get :P.

I found a self-identified submissive man on a vanilla dating site and messaged him. SCORE!
Or, you know, not.

He was cute, articulate, seemed nice enough. We exchanged some messages, I asked him out. He said ‘yes please!’

But then we had a proper chat about F/m. He quickly … Continue Reading

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musing

Do you know yet?

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Creative Commons BY-ND 2.0 mark'EGO - Burning Man 2012' by Bexx Brown-Spinelli

This is pure unadulterated ego, but I STILL think it’s true:

A bummer with newbie submissive men I get involved with is that they won’t know how amazing I really am until they get some experience with others. Until then, they more or less think all Dommes are like me, probably better, because ‘internet’ :P.

But if am interested in them, if I’m with them, there’s something special there. Something unlike anything they are going to experience again, something truly unique and rich and mind-blowing, something rare and sparkling.

BUT THEY DON’T KNOW THAT YET.

They think ‘wow, this is … Continue Reading

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Happy femdom story: Peter & R

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Creative Commons BY 4.0 mark'Love Heart Made With Hands At Sunset' by Ed Gregory

This love story started on Fetlife many years ago, and is still going strong <3.

Enjoy little slice of this happiness.

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Author: Peter

I can still read on Fetlife the first message I sent her, almost exactly nine years ago.

I had started exploring about two years earlier, newly divorced at 47; meeting people for casual play, driving all over the southeast, going to play parties or sessions in Atlanta about once a month.

Four months after joining Fet, it occurred to me to scan my local group’s members list for sadists/tops/dommes in my age range, looking for play partners. … Continue Reading

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Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

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© 'Introvert Girl Gang t-shirt' (no longer available) by shopluellatx on Etsy

Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing!

Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash.

I am introverted, very.

I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above.

But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’.

For me, I’m talking more of a Jungian definition (think ‘MBTI tests’: I know I know, they are so yesterday :P).

That is, for me, people are energy sucks.

I do think … Continue Reading

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musing/  writing

A braingasm of femdom posts

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Public domain mark'Multicolored brain illustration'

What’s the collective noun for a relentless bunch of femdom blog posts in a row?

I settled on ‘a braingasm’, but maybe ‘an insult’, ‘an authority’, ‘an order’, ‘a shitstorm’, ‘a salubriosity’ (is SO a word!)?

Anyway, I’M DOING IT THIS MONTH.

The fabulous Hyacinth over at A Dissolute Life Means is running an #EveryDamnDayInJune blogging meme, which she does every year and which I’ve never joined. You can find links to folks who are joining in at the bottom of that post linked in the hashtag there.

I like the idea of ‘forced writing’ (is this a kink?!), which … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #112 [Audio]

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This fulsome femdom podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • NEW PROJECT ANNOUNCEMENT: I’m creating Femdom audio erotica!
  • Partner wants me to be ‘more dominant’
  • Do you have advice for your younger self?
  • How to introduce group CFNM play to my dominant
  • Do you have a favourite type of nipple clamp?
  • Facing ruined co-habitation LDR plans because of Covid-19
  • How to switch in the moment, any suggestions?
  • Dealing with his performance anxiety
  • Giving/receiving rimming: Yay or nay?
  • And more!

The Domme Chronicles podcast is available on iTunes and Spotify: Subscribe if you want to be sure to get my audio … Continue Reading

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sent emails

My sent emails LV

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Public domain markAdapted from 'Untitled' by Hypnoart

Hello One-Line-Email-Guy-Who-Wants-Me-To-‘Use Him’-Online,

On the remote possibility that you’re open to learning.

Dominant women on these sites get a million of these emails a day from random strangers who, let’s be honest, want to wank.

A one line email from some random dude (with nothing appealing in his profile, no photos, no site activity, or any hint that he’s going to be awesome) wanting online play is not a thing that is even remotely appealing. And if a dominant woman WAS jonesing for some random stranger to wank for them, they’d most likely find some 25yo with a body like … Continue Reading

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