randomness

Shameless blog whoring (again!)

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I do this every year, because I HAVE NO SHAME. None. Zero. Shameless.

I’ve been in the Top 100 Sex Bloggers list for the last three years. Aw yeah I have!

But it’s not enough. IT’S NEVER ENOUGH!!

Because I am a greedy attention whore.

If you like my blog, if you read it every now and then, or if you read it obsessively like an obsessed reader-thing (thank you so much!!), if you get something out of it, or maybe you are just bored one day, please go and nominate me for consideration in the Top Sex Bloggers of … Continue Reading

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femdom dating/  musing

Romancing the Domme

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To me, romance is doing something sweet to show someone that you are thinking of them, something to make them happy, to make them feel special. It’s the little gestures that demonstrate that feeling.

Following on from a really lively Twitter conversation a while back, Mistress Lilyana has written a really interesting post on ‘Romantic shit‘. Go and read it.

In summary, she said that her submissives have, for the most part, not romanced her. She theorises:

“Perhaps there is something about me that repels romantic gestures. Maybe I’m too independent. It’s true. I’ll buy my own damn

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musing

Dreamy-eyed boys

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“So, yeah. I’m still kinda all dreamy-eyed for you.”

I so love the impractical boys, the creative swimmy ones who say things like this, the ones who float.

I am not like that. Not really at all.

And maybe that’s why I love them so. Their ethereal existence has open spaces in it, and I can slip in, like smoke on a breeze, and find my place in there, in their blood and cells, insinuating my way under their skin, hidden and secret.

It is insidious, often, with the boys who feel me like that. There is something that crackles … Continue Reading

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advice/  advice for Dommes/  QnA

Reader Q&A: Domination on his timetable

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Hello wonderful Ferns,

I have started seeing a beautiful boi, who is alpha plus in his day job. This also means he is extremely busy. Sometimes this makes it hard to dominate him as we kind of work to his clock. I am okish with this as I admire his work, actually it really turns me on.. blah blah ANYWAY… Have you been in a similar position and how did you manage it? Or, alternatively do you know of some fet groups or blogs that discuss similar dynamics (im looking for tips, discussions on problems that come up). My biggest … Continue Reading

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randomness

I bought all the dicks!!

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Today I ordered a bag of dicks *laugh* (seriously, am I 13 years old that I am sniggering at that?).

If you hurry, you can get some too – Tantus grab bag: wonderful quality and super cheap for 72 hours. Go!!
Edited to add: The sale is over now. You can still click the link above and find some bargains, but no longer the super duper bargains I was pimping.

I bought these:

This purchasing frenzy is completely divorced from the fact that I have no-one to use them on, or with.

I’m funny with sex toys because I … Continue Reading

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femdom dating

My personal ad is an energy sinkhole

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I’ve already talked about how I’m an introvert and what that means for me.

Funnily, online interactions don’t sap my energy in the same way that real life ones do. I assume it’s related to the fact that I have total control over them. I get to choose who I interact with, how, when, the duration, and about what. This makes me happy because I get personal, social and community interaction on my terms and that works great for me.

Here’s a strange thing though.

I have found the process of talking to respondents to my personal ad utterly … Continue Reading

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about me/  femdom relationships/  musing

Sleeping together

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I don’t sleep well with another in my bed. I don’t sleep well at all for the most part. This tenuous relationship with sleep makes it precious, sacrosanct. There are few things more irritating than having my sleep interfered with.

I need to feel very comfortable with someone to want them in my bed, and if I don’t have that level of comfort, I don’t share well. I will lie there restless, unable to relax, hyper-aware that they are *just there*.

I let bambi fall asleep in my bed one night when he was here. We had played for some … Continue Reading

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