Hello wishfulsub,

It’s none of my business, really, but I sometimes send notes to submissive men who I think are shooting themselves in the foot.

Re your post:

When you ignore messages from newbies like me you are probably missing out on the potential of a great sub…. [etc.]

Your profile picture is likely to put off 99.9% of women. Honestly, when you are contributing in a thread or sending an email, you are, at the same time, screaming, “Look… LOOK… I have a thing… a THING STUCK UP MY BUTT!!!”.

It is really offputting.

As I said, what you … Continue Reading

…would you like to talk again sometime?

Thank you, but no.

You have apologised to me and I do accept your apology, but frankly, corresponding with someone whose second email to me was abuse is not something I am interested in doing.

Ferns

Hello SmartButGenericEmailGuy,

You seem like a sincere, intelligent man, so let me give you some advice.

Read a woman’s profile, her posts, find out a bit about her before writing to her, then engage in some conversation, perhaps something light and interesting that includes some inkling of why you contacted *her* (not ‘a Domme’, but *her*)… you know, like a normal person, like you have been doing in social interactions all of your life.

Your email is obviously generic and you are somehow asking me to find you a woman? Maybe me, but you really don’t care? You must see … Continue Reading

Hello UseMeForAnything,

You read my profile, yes? For an MBA level educated man, reading a couple of sentences shouldn’t be too much of a stretch.

“…have been involved in submission for over 25 years.”

If this is true, then why didn’t some kind Domme teach you in the first 5 minutes that women really hate it when strangers offer themselves ‘to be used’? What we hear is ‘I have an itch and want someone to scratch it… you, oi you, lady, you, yes you… you’ll do!’ It’s hardly surprising that it feels objectifying and very offputting, is it?

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Yeah, I know my pictures are teh hot and sexy.

Oh wait.

I don’t have any.

How very puzzling.

I am sure you couldn’t possibly be such an idiot that you send random bulk messages out to anyone who identifies as female and dominant. That would mean you were a wanker looking for someone to tell you how to wank.

Ok, here you go, I will help you out.

Get on your cam, open it up to the world at large and wank until your cock bleeds. Oh what fun!

Ferns