“Netflix & chill”

As part of our NaBloRrrrawrMo pact during November, the fabulous Submissive Guy Comics is drawing comics inspired by tweets that caught his eye and I’ll be sharing them here. Lucky us :).

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Reader Q&A: How to make someone cry

Dear Ferns,

I am a very inexperienced novice dom and I recently met this guy who is willing to submit to me. I liked him so we tested the water. Although the scene was tough for him, he didn’t cry, not a single tear. I tried my best to humiliate him since I was looking forward to seeing his crumpling face with tears and whimpering, but found out he doesn’t feel that humiliated easily.

The thing is, I get off on a grown man crying, not giving the pain itself and he is more of submissive, less of masochistic. Also, … Continue Reading

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My heart is small and dark

Compersion (n): A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. Referred to mostly in poly or open relationships.

I don’t feel it. Ever.

I am not a kind or giving person that way.

I am selfish and greedy.

Possessive.

What’s mine is mine and you can’t have any of it. Not just physically, but emotionally. That shy smile he does just before I kiss him, that’s MINE. That vulnerable look he gives me when we are sharing intimacies, that’s MINE. That secret he’s shared with me, that’s MINE. The … Continue Reading

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Too cute to be without a collar…

I’m going to post the comics that Submissive Guy Comics is drawing as part of our NaBloRrrrawrMo pact, so you will get BOTH of our efforts this month. He’s drawing illustrations of tweets that catch his eye which is going to be really fun.

This is his first: Adorable *smile*.

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Body project update

I haven’t written about my body project for ages. The main reason is that I’ve been pretty much in maintenance mode forever.

I’ve been gymming and Pilatesing (is SO a word!) 5 times a week, not phoning it in, but also not challenging myself.

And while I’d love to pretend maintenance mode keeps me in peak shape, it doesn’t of course.

So I’m a bit softer, a bit weaker, a bit jigglier than I was.

I’ve just come back from about 8 weeks off. I was overseas for three of them, and then I had a back injury that scared … Continue Reading

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A month of daily writing

Last year, the amazingly talented Submissive Guy Comics and I did what we dubbed NaBloRrrrawrMo: a month of writing (me) and drawing (him) as our very own version of November’s NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month).

My writing has been languishing here on my blog and elsewhere (heard anything more about my novella? Yeah, me either :/), so while it seems daunting to commit to writing daily given where my head is at, with SGC’s happy enthusiasm to post a drawing a day on Twitter, we’re going to give it another go this month and we will see what … Continue Reading

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