Oddly, I haven’t felt like writing about it. I feel a little like I’m hugging it to myself, quietly turning it over and petting it.
Let me say this, though: Three hours of kissing with a completely lovely vanilla man who called me ‘Ma’am’, who invited me to tie him up, who let me hurt him and asked for more, who was responsive and crazy-hot under the onslaught, who was beautiful prey for me.
Yes. Yes please.
Kissing date. A-1. Would do again.
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Edited to add: Those eyes: holy fuck, beautiful! Truly stunning.
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Hmmmm vanilla with sprinkles sounds like.
*smile* Yes. And very lovely sprinkles they were too.
Ferns
Ooooh, sounds like he might not be vanilla for much longer? x
*smile* I’m not so sure about that.
I should write a post about this in a more general sense. Most men are curious and adventurous and given the opportunity will be open to all sorts of play.
I think he fully embraced the chance to explore a little, and I do think he was genuinely keen for me to enjoy myself. He actively offered what he thought I would like. Which was awesome.
But I’m not convinced it’s a path to not-vanilla-ness.
Ferns
HA! You keep turning out the vanilla men there Ferns. Soon we can take over the world! bwahahahaha! I am glad it went so well for both of you.
Respectfully,
Mysticlez
Ha! Occasionally I consider toning down the D/s stuff on my profile on OKC to see what happens, but I just don’t think I can work up the energy to navigate the inevitable discussions about it.
I figure if they haven’t developed an active interest in D/s by the time they are of an age that’s interesting to me, it ain’t gonna happen.
Ferns
oh wow, sounds delish. I totally get it, the desire to hold it close. Cherish it darling, you deserve it!
xoxo
*smile* Thanks!
Ferns
That sounds hot and sweet and fun and I’m really happy for you and vanilla guy, Ferns.
It WAS hot and sweet and fun *smile*. And thank you.
Ferns
Vanilla. Uh-huh. I think he might have been waiting for the right woman to try things with.
Could be *smile*. And I’m beyond delighted that he picked me.
Ferns
Interesting definition of vanilla! Do you really mean, “kinky but non scene”?
No, I mean vanilla, as in ‘no experience, no particular interest, no proclivities in that direction’.
He totally surprised me with his behaviour, but I’m under no illusions that I have somehow awakened a dormant interest in him. I think he was just open to experimenting with me, which I adored. I think I just got lucky.
Ferns
“lovely vanilla man who called me ‘Ma’am’, who invited me tie him up, who let me hurt him and asked for more, who was responsive and crazy-hot under the onslaught, who was beautiful prey for me. ”
On what planet is that classed as vanilla Ferns ?
* giggles helplessly *
Coug
Denial is not a river *giggles some more*
*chuckle* The line is hazy, I grant you.
But honestly, most adventurous vanilla men love mild BDSM play. It’s fun, it’s hot, and it makes me ravenous, and that’s pretty enjoyable for both of us. To me, that doesn’t make him not-vanilla though.
I will say this: the fact that he initiated it, and offered it up seemingly with the desire to please without any input from me, was surprising and lovely (I had zero intention of going there with him). Total win!
Ferns
I completely understand that. I’ve had vanilla men who tried very much to be a proper submissive &/or masochist for me. But when they aren’t, they aren’t. And no amount of wishing will make them into what works for me. They usually are fine with a bit of spanking or the occasional flogging before sex… but it’s usually an entirely different matter when I want to piss on them or have them clean the house in fancy knickers while I’m out on a date. All the same, I’m so happy you had a fantastic time!
@anonymouskinky:
“I completely understand that. I’ve had vanilla men who tried very much to be a proper submissive &/or masochist for me. But when they aren’t, they aren’t.”
Yes, and to your other point, they are mostly fine with some play because hell, it’s hot and fun and new and exciting, but that’s not submission.
I didn’t mention that he specifically pointed out to me that this wasn’t his ‘normal’ mode with women. I think he wanted to be sure that I wasn’t under any illusions about it.
“I’m so happy you had a fantastic time!”
*smile* Me too, thank you!
Ferns